how far to go during push/pull

[bumblebee]

im in college and displayed some interest in this girl (known her for like 5 weeks), but when she started giving me the LJBF vibe, i started not caring as much and invested a lot less energy in her. 3 weeks later, i think i have been getting some IOIs..though not obvious ones...it's a hunch. accidental push/pull here?

would it be accurate to say that you question things she does when she interacts with you and think whether or not she does that with her normal friends. if it seems as though she went out of her way (let's say she randomly called one night and asked if i wanted a snack that she can bring over to my place)...its an IOI? she has called me up to play tennis and for random visits at my place. i dont call her anymore.

anyway, i think im gonna ask her out to lunch at school next week and then do some kino. should i ask her on a date then or should i push her a little more and ask her out later that week (pull).

 

[stoner1129]

I'm just curious what does IOI mean? lol

 

[MotownMack]

I'm just curious what does IOI mean?

Indicator of interest.

My initial two thoughts are

1) Why ask for something that sounds like a date if she's hanging with you anyway, and risk her declining or putting up her b1tch shield? IMO, it's too your advantage to develop some attraction when she isn't expecting it.

2) It was a short post, but it sounds like you are the express train to "friendszone" (best not to be aboard when it pulls in). And you absolutely will be if in the context of these meetings, you keep hanging out with her, but are not moving things forward and you allow her to get too comfortable with you.

 

[jp98502]

Stoner go here:
http://www.fastseduction.com/acronyms.shtml

 

[bumblebee]

how am i going into the friendzone if i dont even initiate most of the stuff we end up doing? doesnt that mean she has some kind of interest if shes the one contacting me? im confused. i thought i was doing ok, we havent hung out THAT much one on one. usually its just casual stuff chit chat after class with some of our other classmates.