"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How far can you go when talking to women?

Rint

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When i talk to a girl. I always find myself worrying and holding back, because i'm afraid of going too far. Most girls think i'm weird, because i go over the top or say weird things. I just wanna know where to draw the line on that kind of stuff i've always felt like i never learned that.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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similar thing happened to me but evaluate the gal within 5 minutes of meeting them by eliciting rapport and values then you can gues where the convo will head otherwise...if she is a low self esteem gal bail out but if she is playing along fine then i dont see why you shouldnt wham..bam her....re-evaluate your comfort zoning with the gals okay?
 

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Start actively listening to the women you are talking to. If she is receptive and responds positively you are on the right track and you can gradually escalate. If she begins to rebuff the subject tract then change the route.

This is why I am not a proponent of canned lines and rehearsed routines; it cripples you to a limited number of conversational tracks in which to travel. Guys following this method often wind up at a dead end or flipped over, wheels up in a ditch somewhere.
 

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I want my conversation skills to be amazing. So i can sweep the girl away with an awesome funny enjoyable conversation, but people say i "over do it" and i'm guessing i say the wrong thing
 

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Hey Noob i read that book, and i thought it was all about questions and interviews. Well i read some of it. What else does the book have to offer?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How far can you go when talking to women?

All the way to the bedroom, little man!
 
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