dannowillbookem
Master Don Juan
you look like you suck on wieners.
you said criticism is welcome...
you said criticism is welcome...
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Or they may be thinking wow, this guy is so insecure and un-confident in himself that he has to resort to getting with ugly girls because he's too afraid to go after the hott ones.CaptainJ said:Ermm... A DJ treats all girls equally. The ugly, the hot, the normal, the nerdy etc. A player will disregard and ignore every girl apart from the ones he thinks he has a chance to fvck. Shallow and superficial. Treat all girls like they are hot mommas, and they will all fall head over heels for you. You will become a prize with a lot of competition for you. If the hot girl you're gaming sees you flirting with an ugly or normal girl, she's gonna become insanely jealous and think "What has that ugly girl got that I haven't? I need to try harder."
Keep that in mind.
Are you effen? I mean seriously, are you effen. Those pic's are straight outta some men's fashion magazines from Europe with 15 year old 110 lb. male models adorning the pages - and nobody dresses like that. I am a bloody fashionista to the core, and I would never dream of wearing anything like that or all those accessories, especially a scarf unless I where on 'a tour' of the gay district... Gotta love all the experts you can catch wisdom from around here! You probably drool watching male runway shows and all that outlandish BS thinking, boy oh boy, can't wait to layer in that cardigan with that scarf!!!saturos said:Allow me to give you some style inspiration. Whether or not you like the outfit, these men are undoubtebly stylish.
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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Uh...no? Who pissed in your cheerios? I said the men were stylish. You might disagree, but i'd like you to post a pic of yourself and your "fashionista" sense for us. And lol, what do you have against scarves? Are you some little kid who automatically associates scarves with gay people? It seems to me more like an issue of you not having the confidence to wear a scarf on your own, and regardless, you have a lot to learn if you automatically call people fags if they do things you don't like.R19 said:Are you effen? I mean seriously, are you effen. Those pic's are straight outta some men's fashion magazines from Europe with 15 year old 110 lb. male models adorning the pages - and nobody dresses like that. I am a bloody fashionista to the core, and I would never dream of wearing anything like that or all those accessories, especially a scarf unless I where on 'a tour' of the gay district... Gotta love all the experts you can catch wisdom from around here! You probably drool watching male runway shows and all that outlandish BS thinking, boy oh boy, can't wait to layer in that cardigan with that scarf!!!
Again, i never said to hang out.Scars said:Why would I invest any of my time in somebody I have no intention or interest in being in a relationship or friendship with?
Yep, that's my fashion template... Harajuku Girls and Kanye West. BTW expert, spent a few years on the rock they call Manhattan. I was thoroughly unimpressed by the prevalence of the preppy look. I saw a lot of sh1tty prep looks in NYC. Go to Europe and you'll see plenty of guys dressed like your pics and lots of scarves. Where I live now probably has more gay population than the total population of where most people on this forum live. The district is completely integrated because some of the hottest straight nightlife can be found in the same hood. I don't really see guys of any stripes dressing with layers and accessories up the @#%, but maybe I don't hang in the right circles for your look. So it was really an uncalled for insult to them, not you.saturos said:And clearly, you have never been to New York City., Japan, or Korea. People dress quite similarly quite often.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.