Glassguy
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Not at all what I asked. You think communication is what attracts females?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
How does one friendzone a girl?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I know it isn’t. It’s what makes for a successful relationship though. What attracts females is 90% looks and 10% how you act.
mrgoodstuff
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You don't think having relative mastery of communication is very attractive?
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I think being indifferent, mysterious, abundant mindset, witty, sarcastic, confidence, etc etc are all attractive traits that draw a woman's interest.
None of which should change based on what wording is used to define the "relationship".
That's my point.
Lack of communication is better than over communication. Do I think communication is important? Yes. It should be deeper and more detailed later in the relationship rather than at the start.
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That's something I wanted to clarify.
As I've gained experience, I've had some chicks that come to my room but reject moves lol. Yet others give their little token resistance and then I'm sleeping with them later that night lol. That first issue has come up a couple of times with me, we discussed it once I think.
How many times do you try to make a move in your room before you next her, Glass? Or is it just a one and done with you?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I know you didn’t ask me but I will say it depends on the rejection. Is she kissing you and youre rubbing on her while she’s saying “I don’t want to do this on the first date”? Or if you kiss her and try to run your hand up her shirt does she stop you and pull back? I’ve seen so many rejections and some aren’t really rejections, they’re anti-slut defenses. To defeat the first example, you just say nothing, smile while you’re kissing her and say “me either” and you’re in like Flynn. The second example is tricky, but salvageable if you don’t panic. What you do is say “I understand, no problem” but here’s the key. You can play it two ways that’s worked for me to defeat it. After saying that, if we are on the couch I’ll get up and offer her a drink or another drink if she’s been drinking. Or if y’all are in your room on the bed, what you do is find something random but interesting in your room to show her. What you’re doing is trying to get her relaxed and her mind off of the rejection. Then you can go for the kill again in the next 10-15 mins.
If she’s still rejecting you after all that or says something about leaving just let her go and don’t talk to her again.