"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Onion

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Let's face it. Those of us who are in LTR know or feel that she's probably is screwing or has screwed someone on the side. Because stats prove that.

It f&cks with my head every time I think about it. How do you cope with the thoughts?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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stevo

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You stop thinking about it.

She can fcuk whoever wants, just the same way you can.

Time to time, I get upset when I consider the thought that she could have fcuked someone else even if she probably didnt but again I remind myself she could do whatever she wants and I just choose to not worry about what I cannot control.

If she fcuks someone else and I know about it, she gets downgraded but I wont lose my mind over something that probably isnt even happening.

What matters is how we interact when we're together, she doing 99% of the chasing and how consistent you get to beat the pussie up.


I'm not trying to cuff her, I'm not trying to save her. I'm not making her my focus and it doesnt have to work out.


There's just too many beautiful fishes to be hung up on one beech.

Drown the afc when he tries to come up for air.
 

Lozboss

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You have to trust each other, otherwise it's a crap LTR.

If you are worried she is cheating on you then it's not a health relationship.
 

RangerMIke

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Lozboss said:
You have to trust each other, otherwise it's a crap LTR.

If you are worried she is cheating on you then it's not a health relationship.
Exactly.

But the best way to deal with it is just to not care. Just wear a condom. I really don't care if women I see are fvcking other dudes. If I'm not willing to be monogamous, I can't expect the women I date to only be with me.

My advice is to TRUST your instincts... if you think your girl is cheating on you, then she probably is and you need to get out of that relationship or just go ahead and be open about it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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