Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
Oh she was comfortable already because we had 2 dates. I asked if she wants to meet.It's not the question. You can ask it any way you want to. The answer you get to that question is going to depend on the groundwork leading up to it.
Last summer I hit a woman up through FB, texted back and forth a bit and threw in a few phone calls, and worked up asking her to spend the entire weekend before we went out on an actual date:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/wedding-as-a-first-date.241100/
Here's a thread showing screenshots of the text conversation I had with this same woman:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/screenshot-thread.242198/
We did meet and hang a few times 10 years ago, but haven't spoken a word since. She might as well been dead and I would have never known. It was essentially like meeting someone entirely new.
Set up is everything.
its after the meeting already. we kissed and cuddled for 4h but she didnt let me take her bra off. it was our 3th date.How much flirting has occurred up to this point? Have you talked about sex, flirted heavily about these things? If that's the case, she knows damn well why she is coming over.
If you have been much more passive and "respectable", she may be expecting much less than sex.
Like I said, it's all in the set up.
Not sure if you read the screenshot thread I linked, but I was already talking sexual positions and such before we met up. She knew exactly what she was getting into because of the nature of our discussions.
I don't know the nature of your discussions with this particular girl you're talking about. The more flirty and sexual they were, the more likely she knows what's expected on this home movie date.
Most women know what you're going after in these circumstances, though. Unless she's very young and naive....
If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.
Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.
This will quickly drive all women away from you.
And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.
when we were cuddling I asked why shes teasing me and then not fuvking and she said shes stopping herself from giving me sexJust make the second date for your area. Guided tour. Possibility of sex just goes without saying.
Should be the crescendo of a good night out/not wanting the night to end. Hence, not having the situation escalate feels more wrong in the circumstance.
Unless she just wants to go home at 10pm on a Saturday.... in which case reconsider compatability.
Expect lmr. That's fine. Her heart's in the right place by being in that position with you. Consider you've pushed the boundaries and made ground.
It's like the battle of Normandy or somesuch.
If she doesn't budge, i used to do loads of gamey stuff. But it comes accross as desperate.
Even playing my guitar genuinely comes across as "trying to soften her up", because they are ultra-sensative at that point, it seems.
So, i put on the Playstation. I've found this good. I only have two games, both football. And i get them to play the game at the highest difficulty whilst i laugh. I find that is brilliant in that kind of situ![]()