Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Oh she was comfortable already because we had 2 dates. I asked if she wants to meet.It's not the question. You can ask it any way you want to. The answer you get to that question is going to depend on the groundwork leading up to it.
Last summer I hit a woman up through FB, texted back and forth a bit and threw in a few phone calls, and worked up asking her to spend the entire weekend before we went out on an actual date:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/wedding-as-a-first-date.241100/
Here's a thread showing screenshots of the text conversation I had with this same woman:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/screenshot-thread.242198/
We did meet and hang a few times 10 years ago, but haven't spoken a word since. She might as well been dead and I would have never known. It was essentially like meeting someone entirely new.
Set up is everything.
its after the meeting already. we kissed and cuddled for 4h but she didnt let me take her bra off. it was our 3th date.How much flirting has occurred up to this point? Have you talked about sex, flirted heavily about these things? If that's the case, she knows damn well why she is coming over.
If you have been much more passive and "respectable", she may be expecting much less than sex.
Like I said, it's all in the set up.
Not sure if you read the screenshot thread I linked, but I was already talking sexual positions and such before we met up. She knew exactly what she was getting into because of the nature of our discussions.
I don't know the nature of your discussions with this particular girl you're talking about. The more flirty and sexual they were, the more likely she knows what's expected on this home movie date.
Most women know what you're going after in these circumstances, though. Unless she's very young and naive....
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
when we were cuddling I asked why shes teasing me and then not fuvking and she said shes stopping herself from giving me sexJust make the second date for your area. Guided tour. Possibility of sex just goes without saying.
Should be the crescendo of a good night out/not wanting the night to end. Hence, not having the situation escalate feels more wrong in the circumstance.
Unless she just wants to go home at 10pm on a Saturday.... in which case reconsider compatability.
Expect lmr. That's fine. Her heart's in the right place by being in that position with you. Consider you've pushed the boundaries and made ground.
It's like the battle of Normandy or somesuch.
If she doesn't budge, i used to do loads of gamey stuff. But it comes accross as desperate.
Even playing my guitar genuinely comes across as "trying to soften her up", because they are ultra-sensative at that point, it seems.
So, i put on the Playstation. I've found this good. I only have two games, both football. And i get them to play the game at the highest difficulty whilst i laugh. I find that is brilliant in that kind of situ![]()