Aspiring_DJ
Don Juan
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I just want to let go and not give a **** what people think or say about me. How do i do it? If you got to this stage what are some things I can tell myself?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
How do you stop caring what people think?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
If you care too much about what other people think, you'll never think for yourself.
If you can't think for yourself, you'll always be a follower.
If you're always a follower, you'll always care what other people think.
And so goes the vicious cycle....
If you can't think for yourself, you'll always be a follower.
If you're always a follower, you'll always care what other people think.
And so goes the vicious cycle....
KontrollerX
Master Don Juan
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Think of a time that you cared what people thought of you and you followed through on their expectations and were absolutely fvcking miserable and felt like a phony or felt like garbage for living the way they wanted you to.
Then think of a time if any where you disregarded what people thought of you and went for what you wanted and you were incredibly happy.
Basically what I'm getting at is you need to rework your pain pleasure principle that NLP talks about.
You have to associate pain to caring what people think about you and associate pleasure to walking tall and not giving a damn about what other people think of you and doing what you want.
And the best way to do this is to again think of times where caring what other people thought of you made you feel awful and really focus on the pain of this and then think of times where you went against the grain and said screw what other people think I'm doing what I want and it brought you tremendous pleasure.
The re-conditioning of your mind is what I believe you must do.
Then think of a time if any where you disregarded what people thought of you and went for what you wanted and you were incredibly happy.
Basically what I'm getting at is you need to rework your pain pleasure principle that NLP talks about.
You have to associate pain to caring what people think about you and associate pleasure to walking tall and not giving a damn about what other people think of you and doing what you want.
And the best way to do this is to again think of times where caring what other people thought of you made you feel awful and really focus on the pain of this and then think of times where you went against the grain and said screw what other people think I'm doing what I want and it brought you tremendous pleasure.
The re-conditioning of your mind is what I believe you must do.
Why you care what people say about you. Like pook says you are a man and men don't care what others think this is female thinking. Why let someones comment define you? They know nothing about you and what you have done in your life why take what they say seriously. The only comments that hurt most people is what they think is true what someone said about them. Start by working on your inner game the more you love yourself the more people's comments are a joke no phase. Take it easy
Beautiful bro.PHAT Rabbit said:It really comes down to mastering your fear of being alone ("If I screw this up I will lose this person's friendship"), but once you have a lot of options - you are less invested in each interaction. Eventually you'll interact with less "care" about what the other person thinks and find that this approach is actually better in the long run.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
Keep convincing yourself, and you shall become.