Aspiring_DJ
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I just want to let go and not give a **** what people think or say about me. How do i do it? If you got to this stage what are some things I can tell myself?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
How do you stop caring what people think?
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
If you care too much about what other people think, you'll never think for yourself.
If you can't think for yourself, you'll always be a follower.
If you're always a follower, you'll always care what other people think.
And so goes the vicious cycle....
If you can't think for yourself, you'll always be a follower.
If you're always a follower, you'll always care what other people think.
And so goes the vicious cycle....
KontrollerX
Master Don Juan
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Think of a time that you cared what people thought of you and you followed through on their expectations and were absolutely fvcking miserable and felt like a phony or felt like garbage for living the way they wanted you to.
Then think of a time if any where you disregarded what people thought of you and went for what you wanted and you were incredibly happy.
Basically what I'm getting at is you need to rework your pain pleasure principle that NLP talks about.
You have to associate pain to caring what people think about you and associate pleasure to walking tall and not giving a damn about what other people think of you and doing what you want.
And the best way to do this is to again think of times where caring what other people thought of you made you feel awful and really focus on the pain of this and then think of times where you went against the grain and said screw what other people think I'm doing what I want and it brought you tremendous pleasure.
The re-conditioning of your mind is what I believe you must do.
Then think of a time if any where you disregarded what people thought of you and went for what you wanted and you were incredibly happy.
Basically what I'm getting at is you need to rework your pain pleasure principle that NLP talks about.
You have to associate pain to caring what people think about you and associate pleasure to walking tall and not giving a damn about what other people think of you and doing what you want.
And the best way to do this is to again think of times where caring what other people thought of you made you feel awful and really focus on the pain of this and then think of times where you went against the grain and said screw what other people think I'm doing what I want and it brought you tremendous pleasure.
The re-conditioning of your mind is what I believe you must do.
Why you care what people say about you. Like pook says you are a man and men don't care what others think this is female thinking. Why let someones comment define you? They know nothing about you and what you have done in your life why take what they say seriously. The only comments that hurt most people is what they think is true what someone said about them. Start by working on your inner game the more you love yourself the more people's comments are a joke no phase. Take it easy
Beautiful bro.PHAT Rabbit said:It really comes down to mastering your fear of being alone ("If I screw this up I will lose this person's friendship"), but once you have a lot of options - you are less invested in each interaction. Eventually you'll interact with less "care" about what the other person thinks and find that this approach is actually better in the long run.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
Keep convincing yourself, and you shall become.