"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How do you react when you know friends were talking about you behind your back?

solo1

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Not necessarily negative...

Anyway me and 2 other friends were eating jap, i was sitting in middle. And i was telling a friend about girl problems, well not necessarily girl problems but just about feeling down cause i made myself like that. Anyway the other friend heard bits and pieces but not the whole thing...Since neither I nor him tell each other about personal problems.

Then we head to barnes & nobles up to magazine section. one friend went to the other side, then the other went also. When i was done looking at the books i went over to their side. They were sitting on the floor and one popped up and asked if i was ready to go. It's obvious that they were talking about me, and one had filled the other in on the missing parts. So i acted like nothing happened, sure i couldve confronted them but there's no point.

I mean i dont care if they do it in front of me, or if he actually asks me about it....but just dont do it behind my back. I mean we're all friends and all you know?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by Smooth Player 056
I know what u mean man. you cant let small stuff affect you, after all you a DJ
you know what. youre absolutely right
 
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