"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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In a situation when the girl body are particularly hot like hb9, face on 7 territory and her personality reflect of a quality women? Im considering her for my LTR.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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A 9 with a sh!t personality will turn into a 6 real quick for me. Likewise, a 6 with an awesome personality can make me fall absolutely head over heels for her.
Looks make you walk over but personality makes you stick around.
 

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A 9 with a sh!t personality will turn into a 6 real quick for me. Likewise, a 6 with an awesome personality can make me fall absolutely head over heels for her.
Looks make you walk over but personality makes you stick around.
Damn that brilliant, this girl seems to be what im looking for for years.
 

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A 9 with a sh!t personality will turn into a 6 real quick for me. Likewise, a 6 with an awesome personality can make me fall absolutely head over heels for her.
Looks make you walk over but personality makes you stick around.
The more one of those talk and act the more beautiful they look.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Why does it matter what anonymous strangers posting on the internet think of her? None of us have met her, know her, or have even seen a single photo of her. You're the one who has to live with her. You decide. Then you live with the consequences, good or bad or rather, good and bad.

In a situation when the girl body are particularly hot like hb9, face on 7 territory and her personality reflect of a quality women? Im considering her for my LTR.
 

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Why does it matter what anonymous strangers posting on the internet think of her? None of us have met her, know her, or have even seen a single photo of her. You're the one who has to live with her. You decide. Then you live with the consequences, good or bad or rather, good and bad.
Ive already have describe her in numeric order by sosuave standards.. Therefore theres no need for her picture, and sosuavers are no stranger to me, many leads a great life, its a satisfaction an the enjoyment having a quality discussion in this forum, that make the difference compared to strangers like you said.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Complete package = LTR
Anything less = Plate
Ratings = nothing substantial and relative at best

And by complete package, I don't just mean her looks and personality. She has to have the same thought process, interests, beliefs, family lifestyle as you too amongst other things. This is what really keeps the LTR a LTR...
 

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I don't use the rating system either but i's good to get an idea.

9 body, 7 face is 8 overall. Quite high for my taste but could make for a good partner. A 'butterface' will always make for a better gf than a stunner in the face with mediocre body with all else being equal. The stunner gets so much more attention and develops entitlement compared to the other way around. Which also means she will have developed her character more, thus making her a better partner.
But, this is just general thoughts on looks. Vet her personality and you'll have your answer.
 

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Looks, Personality & Status. You can have two but you can never have all three...
 

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Ive already have describe her in numeric order by sosuave standards.. Therefore theres no need for her picture, and sosuavers are no stranger to me, many leads a great life, its a satisfaction an the enjoyment having a quality discussion in this forum, that make the difference compared to strangers like you said.
You'll go crazy trying to micro-manage and micro-analyze this. Just use your intuition. If she's hot and fun to hang out with, great. If she's hot but not so fun to hang out with, she might work as an fwb you see casually.
 

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My ex is a total looker.... lived with her for 25yrs (im 42 and we seperated when i was 41)... made gorgeous kids... she had a great hour glass figure... pretty face.. cooked well... sex USED to be great... easily an 8 based on looks.... didnt know how i got so lucky. However... the last 7 yrs of our marriage i became not good enough.. she casted away her family and mine.. withheld sex for months unless she was drinking... her attitude stunk like mad... she still had the looks even tho she was older now (got together at 15 n 16).. but that attitude of hers totally made her a 4 or less... i did try to save the marriage for the kids but resistance was futile... currently im seeing a lady you all would likely consider a 5 or 4.5 at my age... shes a couple years older than me... her kids are grown.. stable job.. needs a bit of excercise but im motivating her.... she worships my cok when time allows.. we even take turns buyin when we eat out and shes 100x more loving, caring, generous and humble than my entitled ex is (who left me for a bigger wallet) and that makes her a 7 or 8 just based on how she behaves.. she makes me feel more than adequate... vs my ex makin me feel like a pile of shyt for years...... ill take a genuine nice lady whos maybe not so high and mighty or overly good looking over a contemptuous ungreatful hot one.... just saying.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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A rating scale is subject, and only useful as a means of conveying one's level of attraction; however, it seems to me that the level of physical attractiveness is really from 7 to 10 -- with 10 being mostly theoretically. In practice, the scale of attractiveness is probably just 7 to 9. So, I wouldn't call a 7 a "butterface" ....unless the attraction was 100% physical, and her personality was so hideous that you could barely maintain an erection.
With this girl i can do it all night with half to 2 hours rest in between and ride for 2 hours.. The chemistry are fvckin crazy. Shes are in exclusive relationships with me yesterday.
 

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Complete package = LTR
Anything less = Plate
Ratings = nothing substantial and relative at best

And by complete package, I don't just mean her looks and personality. She has to have the same thought process, interests, beliefs, family lifestyle as you too amongst other things. This is what really keeps the LTR a LTR...
Thats what im exactly expect for an LTR, she fiits them all.. Plus shes been singles for 4 years enjoy being with herself, and no guy in between.. Rare as a unicorns.
 

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You'll go crazy trying to micro-manage and micro-analyze this. Just use your intuition. If she's hot and fun to hang out with, great. If she's hot but not so fun to hang out with, she might work as an fwb you see casually.
As i said this are the forum i loved, not micro managing things.. Yes i do it all with my guts feelings, and yes you're right about the chemistry is as important for LTR.
 

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10 is like a model or something. People that can make money with their looks (pre-e-thot)

9 is basically flawless and honestly would probably give you just as much sexual gratification as a ten.

8 It's like a nine but maybe one or two flaws, she couldn't be a model or anything like that but still gorgeous and really gratifying sexually. You aren't really losing that much on the sex appeal in my opinion with an 8.

7 is still a head turner and in a normal setting would probably be the most attractive woman in the room but definitely a noticeable drop from the eight. People will still call her hot but she is getting into "pretty" territory.

6 is the "cute" girl. Usually a major physical flae somewhere but overall package is not bad. They are attractive but not necessarily sexually stimulating.

5 It's just what you're barely attracted to and can perform with physically.
You made an analogy of looks being equal to their sexual power and potency, which is not true at all... Looks is one entirely different quality. Sexual power and skill is another.
 

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sex tends to be better with hotter women though, or at least to want to have more sex with them. I have examples to the contrary too but I think people generally accept this.
It can excite you. But sexual power and sexual energy is something inside of someone and it has nothing to do with looks at all. It's why some not so good in the face, but nice body men and women can get people addicted to their sex.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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