"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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how do you next a girl who hangs in a similar crowd?

garruk

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how do you next a girl who hangs out in the same crowd as you?

can you really completely cut off all contact?

i just feel like it would difficult/awkward
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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bigneil

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You don't date her friends, for starters. You have to break it off in a way that her friends accept, even if she doesn't. Blowing a girl off in front of the crowd can really hurt a girl, especially if it's a one night stand. You'll feel really bad years later when you realize it was because of you that this happy-go-lucky babe became jaded. Most girls when they go off to college come back jaded for that reason.
 

Maximus Rex

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Use jealousy plot lines, disqualify yourself as a suitor, and bring other hot chicks around.
 

the305

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i would really love to here why you would cut a girl off.. please enlighten me.
 

horaholic

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Be cordial, but distant. I go through this on a semi-regular basis. its a little uncomfortable at first, but after a while everythings fine, a d you can even be friends.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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garruk

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the305 said:
i would really love to here why you would cut a girl off.. please enlighten me.
i was jsut keeping this girl around to make my main plate jealous. but recently my main plate dropped me and os i have no need for this girl anymore lol.

shes cute and we've hooked up before, but i hate her personality. sounds gay but you guys would understand if you knew her. shes real cool but almost too cool. like one of the guys kinda thing.
 
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