"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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how do you next a girl who hangs in a similar crowd?

garruk

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how do you next a girl who hangs out in the same crowd as you?

can you really completely cut off all contact?

i just feel like it would difficult/awkward
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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You don't date her friends, for starters. You have to break it off in a way that her friends accept, even if she doesn't. Blowing a girl off in front of the crowd can really hurt a girl, especially if it's a one night stand. You'll feel really bad years later when you realize it was because of you that this happy-go-lucky babe became jaded. Most girls when they go off to college come back jaded for that reason.
 

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Use jealousy plot lines, disqualify yourself as a suitor, and bring other hot chicks around.
 

the305

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i would really love to here why you would cut a girl off.. please enlighten me.
 

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Be cordial, but distant. I go through this on a semi-regular basis. its a little uncomfortable at first, but after a while everythings fine, a d you can even be friends.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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garruk

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the305 said:
i would really love to here why you would cut a girl off.. please enlighten me.
i was jsut keeping this girl around to make my main plate jealous. but recently my main plate dropped me and os i have no need for this girl anymore lol.

shes cute and we've hooked up before, but i hate her personality. sounds gay but you guys would understand if you knew her. shes real cool but almost too cool. like one of the guys kinda thing.
 
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