"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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how do you negotiate for salary raise?

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How do you guys negotiate for salary raise with your company?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I ask directly. If your performance is good and you've been with the company long enough, odds are they will grant your request based on that rather than how you ask.
 

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use ****y and funny, be confident and smooth. if you need to, mention that youre may start looking otherwise. if they think that you wont leave, theres no reason to up your pay.
 

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if you need to, mention that youre may start looking otherwise.
Good lord, a 16 year old giving a grown man advice. What do you know bout the corporate world, boy?

Picard, never indicate that you are looking around for another company unless your actually giving them your month's notice. Indicating that you might jump ship would make the management of any firm not want to promote you later on because you represent a risk. A recent study in the Academy of Management Journal concluded that it takes a minimum of $500.00 in advertising, retraining and transition costs to replace even the least of employees. The higher up the position of the person who quits, the higher the cost, so the Human Resource department would put a note on your company file if you indicate to your supervisor that you might leave. Unless you are at a sufficiently high managerial position such that they cannot afford to lose you, or you possess critical sensitive information, don't play that game.

As for asking for pay raise, WHEN YOU ARE GOING TO GET IT. In marketing you do not ask the customer if he would like to buy, you ask which credit card they would like to charge it to, as though it were the most natural thing in the world.
 

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dannowillbookem said:
use ****y and funny, be confident and smooth. if you need to, mention that youre may start looking otherwise. if they think that you wont leave, theres no reason to up your pay.
This tactic has actually worked for me, but it's very risky. I don't recommend it unless it's some sh1tty job you won't miss anyway.

Picard, weren't you looking for a job? How's that coming along?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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You have to ask yourself for it first...

You need to honestly ask yourself if you deserve it.

"The Price of gas has gone up" or "I'm buying an HD TV and would like to be able to more easily afford the payments" don't really cut it.
Think like the owner of that business and ask yourself if:

- Your work output is consistently higher than that of your peers doing the
same job.
- You consistently go the extra mile
- You engage in very little or no personal emailing or web surfing at work
- You truly get along well with your boss and others in your department
- If you owned that particular business, would you grant yourself a raise?

I'm assuming that you're speaking of a pay boost that's "off schedule" relative to a normal annual review?
 
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Why don't you observe how others in your department/company/similar company have done it? Could help for pointers and such.
 

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Marlimus said:
Good lord, a 16 year old giving a grown man advice. What do you know bout the corporate world, boy?
haha i just realized that this isnt hs people. yeahhh that tactic worked well for my old busboy job but i take it back for corporate world.
 

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You don't get what you don't ask for.

If you think you deserve a raise / promotion, then ask for it.

The only time I ever threatened to walk if I didn't get the promotion was when it was a respect issue. The boss was pissed, but he gave it to me with the spiel that "the next guy who threatens to walk, I'm just gonna let him walk" to which I replied "that's between you and the next guy". He made some hand gesture and said "You are now a senior software engineer, now get the fvck out of my office before I change my mind..."
 

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I got new job. hurray ! I am on probation for 1month. however, other companies are asking me to jump ship. They will inteview me within 1-2weeks.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Girl crazy. Chuck Norris Facts. Got to love them. (Your Signature)

As for the topic, bring up why you deserve one. Tell them all you've done for them. Make it pursuasive, and ordered. The more prepared you are for whatever they throw at you, the more likely you are to get it.
 

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Girl crazy. Chuck Norris Facts. Got to love them. (Your Signature)
Thanks. I'm still trying to figure out why it's funny. I printed out the top 100 Chuck facts, and the wife grabbed it and said "this is the stupidest thing I've ever seen." Only thing was that she read it all the way through, and every once in a while cackled like a hyena.
 

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Yes, those are quite entertaining

Chuck Norris qualified for (some race) with a top speed of 324 miles per hour, without a car.


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