Yea the title is my question. I wanna know how to connect well with HSers when i meet them male or female so that i can build social proof. I often have trouble making people feel comfortable and open to be themselves around me. Any advice?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
How do you make some really into you when you meet?
- Thread starter Rint
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Plec07
Senior Don Juan
Just be cool and relaxed about it, read the DJ bootcamp week 1 confidence thing and other posts about confidence. Add some C+F into it and maybe even some light kino if your with a girl.
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Plec07
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It's still pretty much the same, be confident, calm and relaxed. People will respect you for that and thus you'll become popular.Rint said:I dont really like C&F any other advice not really DJish, but more just advice on becoming popular and good with people
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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I guess for HS age (esp for me) its not too good to be C+F because it gives the vibe to people that you are trying to act cool and especially with guys, they may think you'll become a potential threat in the future and will try to destroy you.
I knew a guy in my old highschool, he did the C+F thing....girls thought he was just an a-hole and the guys bullied him relentlessly.
I knew a guy in my old highschool, he did the C+F thing....girls thought he was just an a-hole and the guys bullied him relentlessly.
Snow Plowman
Master Don Juan
I'm in high school and everything works fine. I actually think it's easier because in there short lives so far they haven't met much guys who could give them the experience that you could give them.
C&F isn't the only tool. Push/pull, Stories, cold reads, etc all work fine.
C&F isn't the only tool. Push/pull, Stories, cold reads, etc all work fine.
Well, most of the people in the crowd like someone similiar to them.
Now what to do you ask? Whenever you have a conversation pay attention to what other people say when they describe stuff:
"i went to the pool and the sun[/B and the blue water and the green grasswere an amazing view"-thats someone who likes to see things.
"i went to hike and the wind whispering was amazing"-Sound ype of guy
And so on.
When you speak with some one you know his type try to describe stuff like he does.
I hope i was clear enough.
Now what to do you ask? Whenever you have a conversation pay attention to what other people say when they describe stuff:
"i went to the pool and the sun[/B and the blue water and the green grasswere an amazing view"-thats someone who likes to see things.
"i went to hike and the wind whispering was amazing"-Sound ype of guy
And so on.
When you speak with some one you know his type try to describe stuff like he does.
I hope i was clear enough.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.