Yea the title is my question. I wanna know how to connect well with HSers when i meet them male or female so that i can build social proof. I often have trouble making people feel comfortable and open to be themselves around me. Any advice?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
How do you make some really into you when you meet?
- Thread starter Rint
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Plec07
Senior Don Juan
Just be cool and relaxed about it, read the DJ bootcamp week 1 confidence thing and other posts about confidence. Add some C+F into it and maybe even some light kino if your with a girl.
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Plec07
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It's still pretty much the same, be confident, calm and relaxed. People will respect you for that and thus you'll become popular.Rint said:I dont really like C&F any other advice not really DJish, but more just advice on becoming popular and good with people
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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I guess for HS age (esp for me) its not too good to be C+F because it gives the vibe to people that you are trying to act cool and especially with guys, they may think you'll become a potential threat in the future and will try to destroy you.
I knew a guy in my old highschool, he did the C+F thing....girls thought he was just an a-hole and the guys bullied him relentlessly.
I knew a guy in my old highschool, he did the C+F thing....girls thought he was just an a-hole and the guys bullied him relentlessly.
Snow Plowman
Master Don Juan
I'm in high school and everything works fine. I actually think it's easier because in there short lives so far they haven't met much guys who could give them the experience that you could give them.
C&F isn't the only tool. Push/pull, Stories, cold reads, etc all work fine.
C&F isn't the only tool. Push/pull, Stories, cold reads, etc all work fine.
Well, most of the people in the crowd like someone similiar to them.
Now what to do you ask? Whenever you have a conversation pay attention to what other people say when they describe stuff:
"i went to the pool and the sun[/B and the blue water and the green grasswere an amazing view"-thats someone who likes to see things.
"i went to hike and the wind whispering was amazing"-Sound ype of guy
And so on.
When you speak with some one you know his type try to describe stuff like he does.
I hope i was clear enough.
Now what to do you ask? Whenever you have a conversation pay attention to what other people say when they describe stuff:
"i went to the pool and the sun[/B and the blue water and the green grasswere an amazing view"-thats someone who likes to see things.
"i went to hike and the wind whispering was amazing"-Sound ype of guy
And so on.
When you speak with some one you know his type try to describe stuff like he does.
I hope i was clear enough.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.