"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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How do you know to have in your mind for physical escalation??

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I seem to have trouble exactly reading a female when i should be kinoing or when i should go for the kiss? How to go about them? How to have them want to come over for after party?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I'm interested to learn this as well seeing as I just ****ed this up lol...
 

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Was there any flirty or playful banter in text or on the date? If there was, that is a good sign that shes into you. Try to make casual contact/touch first. your hand in the small of her back as you assist her thru a doorway, your thigh/knee brushing hers as you sit next to her at the table - please sit next to her, or at least at 90 degrees, not directly across, it signals low interest on your part. touch her shoulder and run your hand down to her elbow and ask if she is cold, telling her she looks chilly. These small moves will let you know if he is comfortable with your touch. if she is comfortable with your touch, be sure to give her a hug at the end of the date, as closely as she will allow you - hand in the middle of her back, move the hand down a little and gently try to draw her in to your body. if that goes well, next up is the kiss. you'll feel how ready she is.

If your interest is there and she seems willing, DO try to kino at the end of the second date. A chick who is into you and walks away from the second date without you showing interest in her is going to be confused and wonder if she is wasting her time.
 

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Was there any flirty or playful banter in text or on the date? If there was, that is a good sign that shes into you. Try to make casual contact/touch first. your hand in the small of her back as you assist her thru a doorway, your thigh/knee brushing hers as you sit next to her at the table - please sit next to her, or at least at 90 degrees, not directly across, it signals low interest on your part. touch her shoulder and run your hand down to her elbow and ask if she is cold, telling her she looks chilly. These small moves will let you know if he is comfortable with your touch. if she is comfortable with your touch, be sure to give her a hug at the end of the date, as closely as she will allow you - hand in the middle of her back, move the hand down a little and gently try to draw her in to your body. if that goes well, next up is the kiss. you'll feel how ready she is.

If your interest is there and she seems willing, DO try to kino at the end of the second date. A chick who is into you and walks away from the second date without you showing interest in her is going to be confused and wonder if she is wasting her time.
This is exactly what happened to me...smh... you live and you learn..
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Test out her comfort level by holding her hand. Does she pull away within a couple of minutes? No? You're in. Go for the kiss.

Hand holding is your primary tool in the kino toolbox.

Obviously, you can't just go right for holding her hand at the beginning of the date.
Relax, have fun, and if she seems comfortable with you and the vibe is right, try holding her hand.
 

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Funny question, I don't have much on my mind when escalating physically. Thinking less makes me do more.

Don't be crippled by your worries.
 

daddymonsterpoodle

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I can tell you when NOT to go for the kiss..
Waiting until the 3rd date
While she is eating
Only at the end of the evening
Straight away before building any attraction
While driving (safety reasons)...
If she is wearing those hideous orthodontic braces
While she is kissing someone else
Ymmv

So any time after attraction or interest has been generated and anytime before she thinks you are not confident enough to do it.
 

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If you start stroking her hair and she doesn't move away or tell you to stop its a pretty good bet you can kiss her
 

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Everyone is different. But I don't touch until the woman touches me first, then you can touch her. I know some guys have success by touching first, but I'm really not interested in making something happen with any particular woman... if she isn't interested, I move on. It's so much easier with gals that are open to you.

As far as kissing them the first time.... I just know. I think you just get this from experience and it's really hard to explain when a women is open to you kissing her. It's her body language, facial expressions, what she says, it's a combination of things where you just get this message from her, "Kiss me already!" The only advice I can give you is that women are VERY intuitive. If you want to kiss her, and you are thinking about it, she will know and if she is open to it, you should be able to pick up on it. BE WARNED, if you want to kiss her, and you don't she will KNOW IT and you will be weak in her eyes. So go ahead and try, if she's not open she'll turn her head and you will know where you stand.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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