"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How do you know she's really feeling you when she gives her number?

razkay

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I have had circumstances when a girl will give me her number and I would think something would come out of it. I saw no outwardly signs she was just leading me on. I'm pretty well tuned to when a female will flake or if there was no connection. But I can still be tricked.

We all know girls give their numbers out to many men. But wouldn't she act a little different around the guys she intends to talk to again?
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Make a hint about meeting her before you get the number. Say something like 'hey we should hangout/go dancing (whatever was relevant to the conversation) sometime'. If she seems interested and says something positive, then go ahead and ask her number. If she doesnt give you a positive response she will most likely not return your call
 

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HardTimes said:
This day in age getting a number is worthless.
Unless you're rich and got high status. In most cases, if you're not attractive or you didn't pique the girl's interest, the # is null and void because she just don't wanna hurt your ass.

AKA she feels forced!
 

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You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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razkay said:
I have had circumstances when a girl will give me her number and I would think something would come out of it. I saw no outwardly signs she was just leading me on. I'm pretty well tuned to when a female will flake or if there was no connection. But I can still be tricked.

We all know girls give their numbers out to many men. But wouldn't she act a little different around the guys she intends to talk to again?
The litmus test is whether she READILY accepts your invite to a followup date when you call her a few days later.
 

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jophil28 said:
The litmus test is whether she READILY accepts your invite to a followup date when you call her a few days later.
I assume by "READILY" you mean that she'll answer yes right away and not giving you some messed up "I'll let you know". Lol, wish I had more of the former :p
 

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Kal0051 said:
I assume by "READILY" you mean that she'll answer yes right away and not giving you some messed up "I'll let you know". Lol, wish I had more of the former :p
Yes, by " readily" I meant that she will give you positive signs that she WANTS to go out with you.

These responses are OK from her...
" Sounds great, what time ?"
" Damn, can't make it Friday, how about Saturday instead ?"
" Great, what will I wear ?"
" Wow, you do not waste time do you."
" I love Chinese/ Thai/ Italian/ Outer Mongolian food...."


Not OK..
" I will let you know.." (and she doesn't call back )
" Give me a call later in the week." ( and she won't pickup )
" Im busy all week/ weekend.."
" MY sister is arriving Friday.."
" MY B/f would not like me to date you."
" MY G/f would not like me to date you.."
" MY dog is having an emotional breakdown.."

You get the idea.
 
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