I travel a lot for work and can't see women I've met for months at a time. Texting and phone builds comfort but I normally don't get the same thrill as when I'm there with them; it feels like it's missing an important part. Even when they flirt I don't get the same feeling of excitement I have when I see them; it's a rush looking into someone's eyes or being just physical enough to give them crave being with you. How do you keep sexual tension and intimacy high when you can't see them?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
How do you keep sexual tension and intimacy high on the phone and through texting?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I wrote a tip on this kind of thing here:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=180412
But generally, I really like to use texts to build sexual tension and anticipation. There's no guarantee you'll keep them interested if you're away for months; it depends on how much they like you. In some cases I've strung women along for upto 6 months before meeting and having sex, in other cases they've lost interest in a couple of days.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=180412
But generally, I really like to use texts to build sexual tension and anticipation. There's no guarantee you'll keep them interested if you're away for months; it depends on how much they like you. In some cases I've strung women along for upto 6 months before meeting and having sex, in other cases they've lost interest in a couple of days.