I travel a lot for work and can't see women I've met for months at a time. Texting and phone builds comfort but I normally don't get the same thrill as when I'm there with them; it feels like it's missing an important part. Even when they flirt I don't get the same feeling of excitement I have when I see them; it's a rush looking into someone's eyes or being just physical enough to give them crave being with you. How do you keep sexual tension and intimacy high when you can't see them?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
How do you keep sexual tension and intimacy high on the phone and through texting?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I wrote a tip on this kind of thing here:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=180412
But generally, I really like to use texts to build sexual tension and anticipation. There's no guarantee you'll keep them interested if you're away for months; it depends on how much they like you. In some cases I've strung women along for upto 6 months before meeting and having sex, in other cases they've lost interest in a couple of days.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=180412
But generally, I really like to use texts to build sexual tension and anticipation. There's no guarantee you'll keep them interested if you're away for months; it depends on how much they like you. In some cases I've strung women along for upto 6 months before meeting and having sex, in other cases they've lost interest in a couple of days.