"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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How do you introduce your girl?

skinnydart

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When you're going to a party or something with a girl, and it comes time for you to introduce your girl to your friends and stuff, I never know exactly how to do it.

I mean, they always come up to me and say "Hey skinny, is this your girlfriend?" and sinse we've only been dating a few times, I usually don't know what to say but usually something like "no, we've dated".

I mean is it better to be safe and just say that "this is my friend sara" or "this is my date" or "we're dating". Should I try to push the envelope or just play it safe?
 

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You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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I use to say something like:

"This is my friend HB, she's more friend than the others..." (big smile and look at her)
 

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Unless you've talked about being mutually exclusive, introduce her as "Sara". You don't need to make any comments about dating or her being your date. It should be obvious.

If someone asks if she's your girlfriend, just respond with something non-committal...

FRIEND: "Is she your girlfriend?"
YOU: "Something like that. (smile)"
 

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great hint guys

since they are between girlfriend and date, i think saying what squirrels said it would be a great way out

"Something like that. (smile)"
 

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Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Nice idea...

Originally posted by Interpol
FRIEND: "Is she your girlfriend?"

YOU: "She hasn't quite earned that title yet."

Said with a hint of sarcasm obviously.
lol... nice idea... but be carefull that she doesnt take offence to this and think that your an egotistical prick;) You need to make sure that she KNOWS that u are joking. I'm not saying your tip is bad, its actually quiet good, I'm just emphasising on the importance of making sure that she KNOWS that u ARE saying it in a joking manner:p

Laterz...
 

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hey this is actually a pretty interesting thread going. im always bringing new girls around and i always dont know how to respond to "is that your girlfriend".. is it better to play it cool or give some smart answer?

id be interested in hearing more posts with some more answers. latez!
 

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Unless you've talked about being mutually exclusive, introduce her as "Sara". You don't need to make any comments about dating or her being your date. It should be obvious.

If someone asks if she's your girlfriend, just respond with something non-committal...

FRIEND: "Is she your girlfriend?"
YOU: "Something like that. (smile)"

This is exectly how you should introduce a girl just as "Sara". You will sound like an insecure little highschooler saying stuff " Yes its my date, or my girlfriend".

Your friends are still immature if they need to resort to " Is this your girlfriend?" question. It should be given that if she is not your relative and you are bringing her with you, that something is going on between the two of you.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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YOU: "Something like that. (smile)"
Doesn't that sounds kinda week though, like it would leave a confused look on both your date's and your friend's faces.
 

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Originally posted by DJDamage
This is exectly how you should introduce a girl just as "Sara". You will sound like an insecure little highschooler saying stuff " Yes its my date, or my girlfriend".

Your friends are still immature if they need to resort to " Is this your girlfriend?" question. It should be given that if she is not your relative and you are bringing her with you, that something is going on between the two of you.
TOTALLY TRUE. I must be old, I am scratching my head because this is still a problem for so many of you. By the time I was 20, my friends all knew that if you showed up with a girl, by default you're either banging her or trying to. And that she was off-limits.

Unless you introduced her as your sister or something. But then of course she became fair game for all the other swine! ;)

We'd just say, "how ya doing Mike/Joe/Billy/Hoover/Chumpy Stew/Fat Canseco? This is Susan/Heather/Francesca/Lori/Patti/Wendy/insert name here."

The sooner yall train your friends to stop saying that childish "girlfriend" word, the better off you'll be. Because the woman's gonna be out of her element anyway, and nervous, so anything clumsy you might say will rub her the wrong way.
 

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I just say that we are good friends or that we are seeing each other


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I guess more than "is this your girlfriend" I get the "who's your girlfriend?" particuluary by co-workers at the office. I'm never sure if I should correct him or just say "O, this is Sara, Sara, this is my supervisor/coworker/whatever"
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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"Hey, meet my future ex-wife"
 

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lol oh no your coworker called your girl a girlfriend





look out your in trouble now!




who f*cking cares. seriously if its that big of a deal and she makes it that big of deal she is soooooooo insecure you should run for the hills.
 
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