Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
i compete at postcount on sosuaveHeavy lifts. Compete at stuff. Win those competitions.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
why not use meds. there are some that are very mild, very low side effects, and get the job done. some of the heavy drugs have bigger issues.. the extra T boost from the mild med will help get you going into a physical fitness plan and then you can either drop them if no longer needed or keep using in case still needed. It is really hard to start seriously lifting if low T as motivation is a challenge. It is one of those chicken and egg things. The meds can help get kick started, but mild....i have lack of personality and masculine character traits and this is annoying. i must boost T
my body is fine tho tall and chit
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
go to doctors and do a chekup don't just do random things like this, plus you can never take what the OP says as truthAs a total newbie to this stuff but not the gym or sport where would one acquire said product? I think I could benefit similar to op
Yea I don’t think I’m quite in the same boat but do feel my levels are low for various reasons. Assuming after testing they are wheres a decent place to buy them from for say a low level starter set just to try? Any brands you guys would recommend (assuming they have brands lol)go to doctors and do a chekup don't just do random things like this, plus you can never take what the OP says as truth
Go to the doctor and get tested. I do self injected testosterone. It costs about $25 a month.As a total newbie to this stuff but not the gym or sport where would one acquire said product? I think I could benefit similar to op
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
nah dont be like dat...teach me teh art of masculine subtletyThe problem is, anything I tell you to do is something I know you won’t do. There’s tons of stuff I know about that will increase your T levels but your mindset is off.
Be a man.nah dont be like dat...teach me teh art of masculine subtlety