"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Just wondering, do you put your arms under theirs (their arms end up around your neck) or over theirs (their arms end up around your waist)? Even though i'm 6ft 1 it seems when I go to hug a chick they automatically put their arms higher up and I hug them with my arms under theirs
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Left arm low, right arm up.

If we JUST met, the get a sensual hand shake or a side hug.
 

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Arms around the waist is more masculine and around the neck is feminine. There is a scene in the first Karate Kid movie with Daniel hugging Alley with his arms higher up and it just looks goofy.

http://www.breakupgirl.net/blog/wp-content/uploads/2010/03/karate-kid-shue-kiss_400.jpg

http://us.123rf.com/400wm/400/400/yellowj/yellowj1001/yellowj100100961/6317748-man-and-woman-hug-in-the-sky-sea-on-background.jpg

http://jakemcmillan.files.wordpress.com/2009/06/hugging-couple.jpg

Which one looks more manly to you?

Of course you could always do the high/low:

http://www.goodwp.com/large/201103/16511.jpg
 

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Dekg140 said:
Just wondering, do you put your arms under theirs (their arms end up around your neck) or over theirs (their arms end up around your waist)? Even though i'm 6ft 1 it seems when I go to hug a chick they automatically put their arms higher up and I hug them with my arms under theirs
Yes, sounds right to me... In addition (if appropriate, LOL), do not just put your hands 1) solidly on her back 2) right next to each other and 3) stand too far away, bent over towards her.

Nope.... You want to 1) place one hand higher than the other on her back. 2) Do it somewhat lightly, because you want to perform some kino with those hands by moving them with a subtle stroke.... For some reason, my preference is to begin the hug with my hands furthest apart, one higher and one lower on her back, and slowly and semi-lightly move them closer together. 3) You want the front of your body to really touch hers. Your toes should be right next to hers, which lines up the rest of you for maximum contact... This upright posture can allow her to really feel the muscles of you back... how good and manly you smell... the electricity of any sexual tension that might be present....

These few subtle things make the difference between hugging aunt Bessie and the HB8 you think you have a shot with.

The Gambler
 

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The Gambler said:
Yes, sounds right to me... In addition (if appropriate, LOL), do not just put your hands 1) solidly on her back 2) right next to each other and 3) stand too far away, bent over towards her.

Nope.... You want to 1) place one hand higher than the other on her back. 2) Do it somewhat lightly, because you want to perform some kino with those hands by moving them with a subtle stroke.... For some reason, my preference is to begin the hug with my hands furthest apart, one higher and one lower on her back, and slowly and semi-lightly move them closer together. 3) You want the front of your body to really touch hers. Your toes should be right next to hers, which lines up the rest of you for maximum contact... This upright posture can allow her to really feel the muscles of you back... how good and manly you smell... the electricity of any sexual tension that might be present....

These few subtle things make the difference between hugging aunt Bessie and the HB8 you think you have a shot with.

The Gambler
Golden mate. Thanks for that
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Dekg140 said:
That screams friendzone to me. It seems romantic but what girl (unless of course you're in a relationship with her) would have the confidence to jump up on you unless you're her little *****?

me thinks that only work if both have less cloths on
 

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OK so maybe it does require a bit more intimate knowledge of each other for that to happen, but the context of the hug wasn't specified. I pick girls up all the time when I hug them, they like it makes them feel small and makes me seem more powerful too.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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You just hug her and then quickly drop one hand down to grope her ass before she puts you into the friends zone.
 

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00Kevin said:
You just hug her and then quickly drop one hand down to grope her ass before she puts you into the friends zone.
This
 

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I was speaking from experience. I've had great dates with girls that ended with them moving in the direction of the friendzone. My suggestion is tried and true.

The girl usually tries to friendzone you the moment she goes to give you a friendly hug for the night. Lets face it, no one gives a girl a big kiss on the first date unless you have already seduced her. Most girls won't go for that the first or even second time you meet them anyway. If however you give her butt a nice little squeeze, it tells her that you are sexually interested in her. And don't worry she isn't going to slap you in the face or anything. She will think that you know exactly what you want and that you have the confidence to sex her anytime. Sex with you is then all she thinks about that night.

don't forget you are the man. you are the one that must make the move.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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