"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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How do you hug chicks?

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Just wondering, do you put your arms under theirs (their arms end up around your neck) or over theirs (their arms end up around your waist)? Even though i'm 6ft 1 it seems when I go to hug a chick they automatically put their arms higher up and I hug them with my arms under theirs
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Left arm low, right arm up.

If we JUST met, the get a sensual hand shake or a side hug.
 

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Arms around the waist is more masculine and around the neck is feminine. There is a scene in the first Karate Kid movie with Daniel hugging Alley with his arms higher up and it just looks goofy.

http://www.breakupgirl.net/blog/wp-content/uploads/2010/03/karate-kid-shue-kiss_400.jpg

http://us.123rf.com/400wm/400/400/yellowj/yellowj1001/yellowj100100961/6317748-man-and-woman-hug-in-the-sky-sea-on-background.jpg

http://jakemcmillan.files.wordpress.com/2009/06/hugging-couple.jpg

Which one looks more manly to you?

Of course you could always do the high/low:

http://www.goodwp.com/large/201103/16511.jpg
 

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Dekg140 said:
Just wondering, do you put your arms under theirs (their arms end up around your neck) or over theirs (their arms end up around your waist)? Even though i'm 6ft 1 it seems when I go to hug a chick they automatically put their arms higher up and I hug them with my arms under theirs
Yes, sounds right to me... In addition (if appropriate, LOL), do not just put your hands 1) solidly on her back 2) right next to each other and 3) stand too far away, bent over towards her.

Nope.... You want to 1) place one hand higher than the other on her back. 2) Do it somewhat lightly, because you want to perform some kino with those hands by moving them with a subtle stroke.... For some reason, my preference is to begin the hug with my hands furthest apart, one higher and one lower on her back, and slowly and semi-lightly move them closer together. 3) You want the front of your body to really touch hers. Your toes should be right next to hers, which lines up the rest of you for maximum contact... This upright posture can allow her to really feel the muscles of you back... how good and manly you smell... the electricity of any sexual tension that might be present....

These few subtle things make the difference between hugging aunt Bessie and the HB8 you think you have a shot with.

The Gambler
 

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The Gambler said:
Yes, sounds right to me... In addition (if appropriate, LOL), do not just put your hands 1) solidly on her back 2) right next to each other and 3) stand too far away, bent over towards her.

Nope.... You want to 1) place one hand higher than the other on her back. 2) Do it somewhat lightly, because you want to perform some kino with those hands by moving them with a subtle stroke.... For some reason, my preference is to begin the hug with my hands furthest apart, one higher and one lower on her back, and slowly and semi-lightly move them closer together. 3) You want the front of your body to really touch hers. Your toes should be right next to hers, which lines up the rest of you for maximum contact... This upright posture can allow her to really feel the muscles of you back... how good and manly you smell... the electricity of any sexual tension that might be present....

These few subtle things make the difference between hugging aunt Bessie and the HB8 you think you have a shot with.

The Gambler
Golden mate. Thanks for that
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Dekg140 said:
That screams friendzone to me. It seems romantic but what girl (unless of course you're in a relationship with her) would have the confidence to jump up on you unless you're her little *****?

me thinks that only work if both have less cloths on
 

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OK so maybe it does require a bit more intimate knowledge of each other for that to happen, but the context of the hug wasn't specified. I pick girls up all the time when I hug them, they like it makes them feel small and makes me seem more powerful too.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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You just hug her and then quickly drop one hand down to grope her ass before she puts you into the friends zone.
 

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00Kevin said:
You just hug her and then quickly drop one hand down to grope her ass before she puts you into the friends zone.
This
 

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I was speaking from experience. I've had great dates with girls that ended with them moving in the direction of the friendzone. My suggestion is tried and true.

The girl usually tries to friendzone you the moment she goes to give you a friendly hug for the night. Lets face it, no one gives a girl a big kiss on the first date unless you have already seduced her. Most girls won't go for that the first or even second time you meet them anyway. If however you give her butt a nice little squeeze, it tells her that you are sexually interested in her. And don't worry she isn't going to slap you in the face or anything. She will think that you know exactly what you want and that you have the confidence to sex her anytime. Sex with you is then all she thinks about that night.

don't forget you are the man. you are the one that must make the move.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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