"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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hey guys,

interesting question...

how do you handle some chic that you have a 'cosmic' connection with being with some other guy?>

it's a ***** when you come across that chic whom with everything just clicks like you never thought it could. yet shes got a bf.

what to do ?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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joekerr31 said:
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what to do ?
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I would still ask her out and if she rejects me then I would know that this connection feeling was just in my head and move on.

I know sometimes I run into a girl I think we would be perfect together only to realise that after dating her a couple of weeks down the road that we are not really perfect and she has her positives and negatives like everyone else.

You are putting the carriage in front of the horse by thinking that this girl whom you never dated is perfect for you.
 
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DJDamage said:
I would still ask her out and if she rejects me then I would know that this connection feeling was just in my head and move on.

I know sometimes I run into a girl I think we would be perfect together only to realise that after dating her a couple of weeks down the road that we are not really perfect and she has her positives and negatives like everyone else.

You are putting the carriage in front of the horse by thinking that this girl whom you never dated is perfect for you.
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Putting the carriage before the horse is the perfect metaphor for this situation.

If she really has this connection with the other dude, your presence in her world is merely symbolic.
 
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NEXT.

MOVE ON.

You realize you're going for it on Fourth and ten, right?

PUNT!!!!!!!!!!!!:cheer:
 
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Francisco d'Anconia

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DJDamage said:
I would still ask her out and if she rejects me then I would know that this connection feeling was just in my head and move on.

I know sometimes I run into a girl I think we would be perfect together only to realise that after dating her a couple of weeks down the road that we are not really perfect and she has her positives and negatives like everyone else.

You are putting the carriage in front of the horse by thinking that this girl whom you never dated is perfect for you.
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Bravo! :up:
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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yeah if they will do it for you or to you...they will do it to or for the next guy.
 
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joekerr31 said:
hey guys,

interesting question...

how do you handle some chic that you have a 'cosmic' connection with being with some other guy?> What to do ?
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This is an illogical question considering that you do not know this girl (i'm assuming),yet there is a "cosmic" connection??? Huh?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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