"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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hey guys,

interesting question...

how do you handle some chic that you have a 'cosmic' connection with being with some other guy?>

it's a ***** when you come across that chic whom with everything just clicks like you never thought it could. yet shes got a bf.

what to do ?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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joekerr31 said:
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what to do ?
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I would still ask her out and if she rejects me then I would know that this connection feeling was just in my head and move on.

I know sometimes I run into a girl I think we would be perfect together only to realise that after dating her a couple of weeks down the road that we are not really perfect and she has her positives and negatives like everyone else.

You are putting the carriage in front of the horse by thinking that this girl whom you never dated is perfect for you.
 
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DJDamage said:
I would still ask her out and if she rejects me then I would know that this connection feeling was just in my head and move on.

I know sometimes I run into a girl I think we would be perfect together only to realise that after dating her a couple of weeks down the road that we are not really perfect and she has her positives and negatives like everyone else.

You are putting the carriage in front of the horse by thinking that this girl whom you never dated is perfect for you.
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Putting the carriage before the horse is the perfect metaphor for this situation.

If she really has this connection with the other dude, your presence in her world is merely symbolic.
 
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NEXT.

MOVE ON.

You realize you're going for it on Fourth and ten, right?

PUNT!!!!!!!!!!!!:cheer:
 
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Francisco d'Anconia

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DJDamage said:
I would still ask her out and if she rejects me then I would know that this connection feeling was just in my head and move on.

I know sometimes I run into a girl I think we would be perfect together only to realise that after dating her a couple of weeks down the road that we are not really perfect and she has her positives and negatives like everyone else.

You are putting the carriage in front of the horse by thinking that this girl whom you never dated is perfect for you.
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Bravo! :up:
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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yeah if they will do it for you or to you...they will do it to or for the next guy.
 
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joekerr31 said:
hey guys,

interesting question...

how do you handle some chic that you have a 'cosmic' connection with being with some other guy?> What to do ?
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This is an illogical question considering that you do not know this girl (i'm assuming),yet there is a "cosmic" connection??? Huh?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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