Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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hey guys,

interesting question...

how do you handle some chic that you have a 'cosmic' connection with being with some other guy?>

it's a ***** when you come across that chic whom with everything just clicks like you never thought it could. yet shes got a bf.

what to do ?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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joekerr31 said:
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what to do ?
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I would still ask her out and if she rejects me then I would know that this connection feeling was just in my head and move on.

I know sometimes I run into a girl I think we would be perfect together only to realise that after dating her a couple of weeks down the road that we are not really perfect and she has her positives and negatives like everyone else.

You are putting the carriage in front of the horse by thinking that this girl whom you never dated is perfect for you.
 
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DJDamage said:
I would still ask her out and if she rejects me then I would know that this connection feeling was just in my head and move on.

I know sometimes I run into a girl I think we would be perfect together only to realise that after dating her a couple of weeks down the road that we are not really perfect and she has her positives and negatives like everyone else.

You are putting the carriage in front of the horse by thinking that this girl whom you never dated is perfect for you.
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Putting the carriage before the horse is the perfect metaphor for this situation.

If she really has this connection with the other dude, your presence in her world is merely symbolic.
 
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NEXT.

MOVE ON.

You realize you're going for it on Fourth and ten, right?

PUNT!!!!!!!!!!!!:cheer:
 
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Francisco d'Anconia

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DJDamage said:
I would still ask her out and if she rejects me then I would know that this connection feeling was just in my head and move on.

I know sometimes I run into a girl I think we would be perfect together only to realise that after dating her a couple of weeks down the road that we are not really perfect and she has her positives and negatives like everyone else.

You are putting the carriage in front of the horse by thinking that this girl whom you never dated is perfect for you.
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Bravo! :up:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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yeah if they will do it for you or to you...they will do it to or for the next guy.
 
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joekerr31 said:
hey guys,

interesting question...

how do you handle some chic that you have a 'cosmic' connection with being with some other guy?> What to do ?
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This is an illogical question considering that you do not know this girl (i'm assuming),yet there is a "cosmic" connection??? Huh?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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