"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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How do you handle the 3rd date?

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Any of you who have read many of my threads/posts know that I am very inexperienced with girls and dating.

How do you handle the 3rd date when the 3rd date is a meal at her place with her cooking? Are you supposed to go for the sex here or not?

Does making that move ruin your chances if you don't take it or does not doing so put you in the friendzone? (we have kissed on the first two dates).

I'm 24 and she's 25.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Relax go with the flow and no you dont have to have sex.

If you're on a 3rd date she obviously likes you....just keep being yourself and she wont dump you, even if you dont have sex.
 
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A date isnt something you "handle", its not a homeless person stopping you on the street for money.

Enjoy your time with her, let your mind go away for awhile and all the ideas of should i do this should i do that. See her, communicate with her, really connect with what she is saying and doing instead of analyzing it as a means to an end. The rest will flow naturally.
 
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Ok so you don't think she will be expecting/wanting me to make the move?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Hmm said:
Relax go with the flow and no you dont have to have sex.

If you're on a 3rd date she obviously likes you....just keep being yourself and she wont dump you, even if you dont have sex.
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at least one optimistic dude who doesnt obssess himself with mind games, dating stragetiges...
oh btw, u MUST fvck her, it's a third date. if not, she will flake you because you didnt escalate. that's what dating guru been telling me

my "uber lame/afc opinion" is also just to go with the flow and do whatever you want and feel comfortable.
 
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Hey OP did you end up losing your v-card yet? I remember a few months ago you stated that you were still a virgin
 
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Eternal_water said:
Any of you who have read many of my threads/posts know that I am very inexperienced with girls and dating.

How do you handle the 3rd date when the 3rd date is a meal at her place with her cooking? Are you supposed to go for the sex here or not?

Does making that move ruin your chances if you don't take it or does not doing so put you in the friendzone? (we have kissed on the first two dates).

I'm 24 and she's 25.
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On every date regardless of first date or what number, you always go for sex assuiming you are attracted to her...always put your desires first .
 
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Nah man. Look at it like this: you have a realistic chance at having sex on that date. Now you don't have to PLAN to have sex, and on how you are going to initiate it, and make strategies...

... man just go with the flow. Any way you'd want some kind of intimacy on a date where she cooks for you. The least thing would be to thank her with a kiss. Watch a movie on her couch afterwards?

Have you ever had sex before? Then you'll know that feeling when the date is going right, you're at her place, at some point you're both just feeling it. Your timing doesn't matter. You can just grab her.

If for some reason it doesn't happen: have a fun, relaxed and pleasant evening anyway. But even without sex, keep it sexual. Eye contact etc. You can still leave her with butterflies in her stomach.

If you're a virgin then you're probably desperate to have sex anyway. In that case: good luck.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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