"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How do you handle rude b!tches?

onthepath

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say you come across a woman that you're interested in, or at least curious about, but she tries to be funny and then crosses the line to being simply rude, how do you handle it?

for instance, there's this girl and we;ve got this all day training thing coming up - she's not very attractive but i would like to know how to handle this generic situation

we've been exchanging a few emails (just about the training session) with some sarcastic humour, and she's now being a downright b!tch

so, i've completley ignored her, and am curious as to how i should handle the training session seeing as how we're together for the whole day (and assuming she doesn't try to contact again)

i'm thinking i continue to ignore her, and when she calls me on it with "ooh i've hurt your feelings" or she accuses me of being a wuss or something, i'm just going to tell her that the reason i'm ignoring her is because she's just not worth my time
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Don't let people get you on the defensive. Counter with 'You're quite an angry person aren't you?' or 'Have you considered Prozac?'
 

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I have nothing to prove. My time is more valuable that wasting it on a worthless human being. I move on quickly saying little. A snide remark does nothing for you.
 

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When they cross the line and become rude, you place them on the ignore list. There are more productive things in life to waste your time on.
 

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I just ignore stuff like that. I mean you can react to it if you want to, but in the end, it's just pointless.
 

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When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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onthepath said:
i'm thinking i continue to ignore her, and when she calls me on it with "ooh i've hurt your feelings" or she accuses me of being a wuss or something, i'm just going to tell her that the reason i'm ignoring her is because she's just not worth my time
That's one option, the other option is she'll become obsessed with you.

Don't explain yourself or make excuses. You both know she's acting bytchy. You're under no obligation to give her a reason why you want to make sure it's ok if you ignore her for being a bytch. You make these decisions.

Just act bored and dis-interested around her, like she's not even there really, and you're only talking to her when you must, and let her know through your actions that you're making the best of it but would rather not even see her.

Better yet, just act like she's anyone else you hardly know that you have no emotional investment in. Her ego will take a nose-dive.
 

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hmm, so two schools of thought, either C+F or ignore her

guess i'll wait and see what type of mood i'm in

thanks guys

the other option is just go flirt with everyone else there but her eh ;)
 

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onthepath said:
the other option is just go flirt with everyone else there but her eh ;)
It's the same thing. Bottom line is she's not earning your attention, so your attention goes elsewhere.
 
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