"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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how do you handle other guys shutting u out the convo?

gimmeyofonenumba

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very rarely this happens to me. I'll be talking with a group of like 3-4 people,and someone will come along, and actually step right in the circle of conversation, right in front of me, talks louder,takes away attention. Just completely shuts you out from the environment, usually they start talking about something you are not involved in at all. How do i stop/counter this?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I-am-someone

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Plenty of options...
Just a few that come to my mind...

  • Get on his level. Speak at the same tone of voice and start talking directly to him, making your conversation the center of the group. Then include others into the conversation as well, and make some jokes about how he entered the conversation if you'd like.
  • If the people around you are your friends, simply look at the guy like "What the hell are you doing, butting into our conversation like this??".. Depending on your status within the group, the others will see you looking at him like that, and follow your lead.
  • Split the group into two, engage another part of the group into interesting conversation on something else.

And many more ways of dealing with it can be thought of. Basically, you can't stop it, but you can redirect the flows of conversation in your own interest.
 

Fash

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Ok... here is another way of looking at it.

I'm usually the guy that butts into conversations, speaks louder, changes the subjects, AMOGs the males and extracts the chick (my target).

The only thing that can/will stop me in my tracks and shut me up is if the person I just spoke over, stops, looks at me as in "who the hell are you?" and then says "sorry, we were in the middle of a coversation here"...

Keep it polite, straight and to the point.

Or you could just be the loud one! ;-)
 

Rock_Solid

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I like I-am-someone's third bullet, i've never tried that before but now i want to. It's actually a simple idea, just extract your target while the AMOG talks to the group, brilliant! thanks:up:
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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