"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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how do you handle other guys shutting u out the convo?

gimmeyofonenumba

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very rarely this happens to me. I'll be talking with a group of like 3-4 people,and someone will come along, and actually step right in the circle of conversation, right in front of me, talks louder,takes away attention. Just completely shuts you out from the environment, usually they start talking about something you are not involved in at all. How do i stop/counter this?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I-am-someone

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Plenty of options...
Just a few that come to my mind...

  • Get on his level. Speak at the same tone of voice and start talking directly to him, making your conversation the center of the group. Then include others into the conversation as well, and make some jokes about how he entered the conversation if you'd like.
  • If the people around you are your friends, simply look at the guy like "What the hell are you doing, butting into our conversation like this??".. Depending on your status within the group, the others will see you looking at him like that, and follow your lead.
  • Split the group into two, engage another part of the group into interesting conversation on something else.

And many more ways of dealing with it can be thought of. Basically, you can't stop it, but you can redirect the flows of conversation in your own interest.
 

Fash

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Ok... here is another way of looking at it.

I'm usually the guy that butts into conversations, speaks louder, changes the subjects, AMOGs the males and extracts the chick (my target).

The only thing that can/will stop me in my tracks and shut me up is if the person I just spoke over, stops, looks at me as in "who the hell are you?" and then says "sorry, we were in the middle of a coversation here"...

Keep it polite, straight and to the point.

Or you could just be the loud one! ;-)
 

Rock_Solid

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I like I-am-someone's third bullet, i've never tried that before but now i want to. It's actually a simple idea, just extract your target while the AMOG talks to the group, brilliant! thanks:up:
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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