"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How do you guys turn down women?

Dirtheart

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We are all very familiar with the ways women let guys down, but if a woman asks you out and you're not interested, how do you turn them down?

If it's an outright and obvious proposition, I often tell her I'm seeing someone or I've just got out of a relationship.

If it's a casual proposition, like "Wanna come out tonight?" I make out I have other plans.

If a girl asks for my number, I give it out regardless.

If a girl is expressing an ongoing interest, then I usually drop hints into my conversations, such as "I'm holding off dating until after my studies".


I'll never lead a woman on or suddenly turn cold on her, and I think it's cruel giving the long and insincere "You're a great girl and I like you, but..." speech. So I usually try not to draw attention to it, or act naive, as if I don't know they're asking me out.

I'm curious how everyone else handles these situations and if there are any similarities between male and female brush offs.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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willo

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Blunt

"Thanks, but no thanks"
"I'm choosing to be single at the moment"
“I’m flattered, but not interested”
 

EternalBachelor

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Willo's advice is very good. For a start women can usually tell if you are lying or telling half truths. Plus you will get found out . But more importantly an interested women will interrogate you until the truth comes out and you will look bad.

Honesty really is the best policy when it comes to dealing with women:

Sorry, I would prefer it if we remained friends

Sorry I am not interested in a relationship (with you)

The best way is to avoid a girl propositioning you altogether. I often get off on the ego boost of having a girl in love with me and lead her on and end up regretting it. If you are not interested in a girl, from the start just be friendly but detached.
 

DJ Alejandro

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yeah.. the only thing i can give you is to read MVPlaya's post. something bout a girl proposing to him. you gotta believe it.

its a very good read.
 
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