daddymonsterpoodle
Master Don Juan
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Have a life...
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
How do you guys deal with loneliness?
- Thread starter jebach123
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
resilient
Master Don Juan
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I agree with what PK said earlier, if you take the time to pursue passions, hobbies, plates, whatever.... you won't have time to sit at home wondering what the hell you should be doing with all your free time. Be about something. Volunteer. Support a cause. Visit family, call a friend or two. Hang out at a sports bar watching your favorite sport. Mine's American football, so I get together with my buddies and bust on them for kicking their @sses in our fantasy football league.
PeasantPlayer
Master Don Juan
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Man I miss reading fiction books, must continue
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
marmel75
Master Don Juan
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Why do you need someone else to have a fulfilling life? You can be alone without being lonely.
The problem is you equate your self worth and happiness with other's validation and acceptance rather than it coming from within.
The problem is you equate your self worth and happiness with other's validation and acceptance rather than it coming from within.