daddymonsterpoodle
Master Don Juan
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Have a life...
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
How do you guys deal with loneliness?
- Thread starter jebach123
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
resilient
Master Don Juan
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I agree with what PK said earlier, if you take the time to pursue passions, hobbies, plates, whatever.... you won't have time to sit at home wondering what the hell you should be doing with all your free time. Be about something. Volunteer. Support a cause. Visit family, call a friend or two. Hang out at a sports bar watching your favorite sport. Mine's American football, so I get together with my buddies and bust on them for kicking their @sses in our fantasy football league.
PeasantPlayer
Master Don Juan
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Man I miss reading fiction books, must continue
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
marmel75
Master Don Juan
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Why do you need someone else to have a fulfilling life? You can be alone without being lonely.
The problem is you equate your self worth and happiness with other's validation and acceptance rather than it coming from within.
The problem is you equate your self worth and happiness with other's validation and acceptance rather than it coming from within.