"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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how do you go about getting a chick to go dutch for a date

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went on couple dates with this chick..once out to eat..once just to the bar..both times she didn't offer to pay for ****..Supposed to go out again on thursday to the movies I got $40.00..any suggestions on how I could get her to split the cost of snacks at the movie theater?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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chrisgoodrich25 said:
went on couple dates with this chick..once out to eat..once just to the bar..both times she didn't offer to pay for ****..Supposed to go out again on thursday to the movies I got $40.00..any suggestions on how I could get her to split the cost of snacks at the movie theater?
Stop offering/inviting chicks to go on dates, until, one, you have bed them, and you are ok with paying for the whole thing, or until they treat you to something, by paying.

Another alternative is to suggest/invite her to cook for you.

Tell her, "You still want to go to movies? Ok, I get the tix, you get the snacks. Fair enough?"
 

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Gangster Of Love said:
Stop offering/inviting chicks to go on dates, until, one, you have bed them, and you are ok with paying for the whole thing, or until they treat you to something, by paying.

Another alternative is to suggest/invite her to cook for you.

I just decided that Im gona call her tomarrow..tell her Some unexpected bills came up..so i wont be able to afford going out..and that if she still wants to get together I got a bottle of some spiced rum and some beer..we can kick it at my place and watch a movie here..whatcha think?
 

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this is relevant to me. i paid for the first two times i took a friend out to the movies
 

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chrisgoodrich25 said:
I just decided that Im gona call her tomarrow..tell her Some unexpected bills came up..so i wont be able to afford going out..and that if she still wants to get together I got a bottle of some spiced rum and some beer..we can kick it at my place and watch a movie here..whatcha think?

Not a bad plan IF you have done all the groundwork for you to be able to pull it off. I got a question for you? Have you kissed this one? Have you escalated physically/sexually with her? If your first two "dates" have been pretty non-romantic/non-sexual, and then you drop the "come hang out at my place, I got a bottle of some good $hit, we can party", I seriously doubt she will agree. I would still try it, though. Better than taking her out and paying for yet another asexual "date".

Be prepared to answer her questions, stuff like, "Go to your house and drink? For what?", "What else are we going to do?", "Why do you want me to go to your house, I hardly know you?", etc. She knows what you are up to, and if you haven't set things up to where the next thing to do is to hook up or get closer, and you expect her to just show up to play, you will need to have answers to her questions.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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this is relevant to me. i paid for the first two times i took a friend out to the movies
Is your goal to remain friends with this person you took to the movies? If she's just a friend, and you are not planning hitting on her later, then there is no problem you paying her way.

If being platonic friends is not your goal, then stop taking girls you are interested in to the movies the first two times and start doing what you have or need to learn here to get to your goal.

Better yet, go hit on girls that are not your "friend".
 

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I usually go for what Gangster suggested.

'Right, I'll buy the tickets and you can buy us popcorn and a drink!'

Or you can say that you will pay this time, and she can pay next time, setting yourself up more for there to be a next time.

Definitely a good idea to get a bit of rapport and a connection before going to the movies though... I wouldn't do that if I hardly knew the girl.
 
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