Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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How do you get rid of the need/want to impress women?

TheSlasher

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This really clouds my judgment, like in business. Like for example, I find myself wanting (take note: I didn't do it yet) to talk business with my people on phone while a chick that is sort of my type is beside me, when I'd rather not do it when I'm with other people, for example, my friends.

This is really stupid. Come to think of it. There are people that will only have to breathe in order to make as much as I'm making within a year. It also makes me anxious on wanting to make money sooner. Like really man, this is stupid.

I don't want to impress anybody, at least not women. I just want to hold myself with a poise out of something that comes from within. Not money. Not wealth. Not women. Something noble and truly honorable or something.

What can you say guys?

Thanks.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Desdinova

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There's nothing wrong with wanting to impress women, but you need to do it in a way that's attractive to her. If you've got a kickass personality and a great sense of humour, that's what you use to impress her.

Actually, "impress" is a lousy word to use. "Attract" would be more suitable.
 

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Desdinova said:
There's nothing wrong with wanting to impress women, but you need to do it in a way that's attractive to her. If you've got a kickass personality and a great sense of humour, that's what you use to impress her.

Actually, "impress" is a lousy word to use. "Attract" would be more suitable.
Actually -- and I don't even know what you'll think of this -- but I don't even want to want to attract women.
 

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trying to be flashy will only attract a cetain type of woman, cars, clothes phones only can do so much, being a secure confident man with the success you have is what will obtain women.


TheSlasher said:
Actually -- and I don't even know what you'll think of this -- but I don't even want to want to attract women.
so you dont want women then


TheSlasher said:
Yeah but the problem with the success we have is that it could end, be forgotten, or even belittled. It looks to me that it's no different than taking your confidence from your success with women. I mean life is a journey, a life of working, rather than a life of acquiring.
you have to learn not to let that bother you, not everything lasts forever, if you have good investments and are finacially set you wont have to worry, you can live off of your previous success
 

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asa_don said:
trying to be flashy will only attract a cetain type of woman, cars, clothes phones only can do so much, being a secure confident man with the success you have is what will obtain women.

so you dont want women then
Yeah but the problem with the success we have is that it could end, be forgotten, or even belittled. It looks to me that it's no different than taking your confidence from your success with women. I mean life is a journey, a life of working, rather than a life of acquiring.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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