"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How do you get rid of the need/want to impress women?

TheSlasher

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This really clouds my judgment, like in business. Like for example, I find myself wanting (take note: I didn't do it yet) to talk business with my people on phone while a chick that is sort of my type is beside me, when I'd rather not do it when I'm with other people, for example, my friends.

This is really stupid. Come to think of it. There are people that will only have to breathe in order to make as much as I'm making within a year. It also makes me anxious on wanting to make money sooner. Like really man, this is stupid.

I don't want to impress anybody, at least not women. I just want to hold myself with a poise out of something that comes from within. Not money. Not wealth. Not women. Something noble and truly honorable or something.

What can you say guys?

Thanks.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Desdinova

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There's nothing wrong with wanting to impress women, but you need to do it in a way that's attractive to her. If you've got a kickass personality and a great sense of humour, that's what you use to impress her.

Actually, "impress" is a lousy word to use. "Attract" would be more suitable.
 

TheSlasher

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Desdinova said:
There's nothing wrong with wanting to impress women, but you need to do it in a way that's attractive to her. If you've got a kickass personality and a great sense of humour, that's what you use to impress her.

Actually, "impress" is a lousy word to use. "Attract" would be more suitable.
Actually -- and I don't even know what you'll think of this -- but I don't even want to want to attract women.
 

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trying to be flashy will only attract a cetain type of woman, cars, clothes phones only can do so much, being a secure confident man with the success you have is what will obtain women.


TheSlasher said:
Actually -- and I don't even know what you'll think of this -- but I don't even want to want to attract women.
so you dont want women then


TheSlasher said:
Yeah but the problem with the success we have is that it could end, be forgotten, or even belittled. It looks to me that it's no different than taking your confidence from your success with women. I mean life is a journey, a life of working, rather than a life of acquiring.
you have to learn not to let that bother you, not everything lasts forever, if you have good investments and are finacially set you wont have to worry, you can live off of your previous success
 

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asa_don said:
trying to be flashy will only attract a cetain type of woman, cars, clothes phones only can do so much, being a secure confident man with the success you have is what will obtain women.

so you dont want women then
Yeah but the problem with the success we have is that it could end, be forgotten, or even belittled. It looks to me that it's no different than taking your confidence from your success with women. I mean life is a journey, a life of working, rather than a life of acquiring.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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