Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
After the proper romance of about 5 weeks, if you get her alone, you should offer her a drink. Sit down together, have a sip. Take her drink and put it on the table. Reach under and lift her up, onto your lap. Tip her back and kiss her. Slowly work your way to a small French kiss (not the band Kiss, no Gene Simmons tongue). Let your hand go from her belly slowly up to her nipples.The subject line says it all ... after you've brought a chick over to your place, how do you get her into bed? What are the steps from the entrance to the bedroom?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Lmao! Proper romance of 5 weeks? You sure you aren't trying to be her gay friend?After the proper romance of about 5 weeks, if you get her alone, you should offer her a drink. Sit down together, have a sip. Take her drink and put it on the table. Reach under and lift her up, onto your lap. Tip her back and kiss her. Slowly work your way to a small French kiss (not the band Kiss, no Gene Simmons tongue). Let your hand go from her belly slowly up to her nipples.
Once I got to this point with the following 4 women (who I had never been alone with before) recently, here were the lines I used:
1) To the 20 year old I said: "I have some bad news. I think... I think we're going to have sex tonight. Listen, I don't like it any more than you do. But I think we should just get it over with". She said ok. Time to score: 6 minutes.
2) The 19 year old actually said "just f*ck me" before I said a word. I said ok. Time to score: 5 minutes.
3) The 22 year old was paranoid and wouldn't go further. I took her home. Time to score (didn't score - but still dating her).
4) With the 26 year old who I'd known 11 months, I didn't say a word. Time to score: 15 minutes.
Here is a good trick. If you have chemistry with a different girl, you can recreate that feeling by thinking about them.
I'm saying 5 weeks from the day you first lay eyes on her until you have her alone in your apartment or hotel room. You can have a one night stand, but you can't get a girl to have a crush and high interest instantly. But enlighten us - tell us about the 4 girls you had in hotels in the past 5 weeks.Lmao! Proper romance of 5 weeks? You sure you aren't trying to be her gay friend?
BigNeil, the class clown as always...I'm saying 5 weeks from the day you first lay eyes on her until you have her alone in your apartment or hotel room. You can have a one night stand, but you can't get a girl to have a crush and high interest instantly. But enlighten us - tell us about the 4 girls you had in hotels in the past 5 weeks.
The 4 girls I was with I knew:
1) 5 weeks (my benchmark)
2) 6 months (then random one night stand)
3) 5 days (too soon)
4) 11 months (too long)
That's probably more than marmel75 has had since 2010, so bear with him.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Steps! No man, there are no steps, you have to feel situation. Plus, for sex you don't have to bring her home. Also, sometimes you bring them home not for sex.The subject line says it all ... after you've brought a chick over to your place, how do you get her into bed? What are the steps from the entrance to the bedroom?
Here's an idea - when you want to say something: have a point. It makes it so much easier for the reader.BigNeil, the class clown as always...
After the proper romance of about 5 weeks, if you get her alone, you should offer her a drink. Sit down together, have a sip. Take her drink and put it on the table. Reach under and lift her up, onto your lap. Tip her back and kiss her. Slowly work your way to a small French kiss (not the band Kiss, no Gene Simmons tongue). Let your hand go from her belly slowly up to her nipples.
Once I got to this point with the following 4 women (who I had never been alone with before) recently, here were the lines I used:
1) To the 20 year old I said: "I have some bad news. I think... I think we're going to have sex tonight. Listen, I don't like it any more than you do. But I think we should just get it over with". She said ok. Time to score: 6 minutes.
2) The 19 year old actually said "just f*ck me" before I said a word. I said ok. Time to score: 5 minutes.
3) The 22 year old was paranoid and wouldn't go further. I took her home. Time to score (didn't score - but still dating her).
4) With the 26 year old who I'd known 11 months, I didn't say a word. Time to score: 15 minutes.
Here is a good trick. If you have chemistry with a different girl, you can recreate that feeling by thinking about them.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Yes...a living legend in your own mind.Here's an idea - when you want to say something: have a point. It makes it so much easier for the reader.
There is nothing the DJ-wannabee's here hate more than seeing my raw, undeniably awesome statistics.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.