"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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SamTheHobit

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Getting numbers, girls seem interested.. Then nothing. How do you overcome this barrier?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Espi said:
There are varying opinions on this, but mine is, spin as many plates as you can handle and keep the phone-text-email convos MINIMAL...ie. no longer than 5 minutes on the phone or no more than 2-3 text/email volleys...and if they don't respond, go cold on them for one week. NO texts-calls-emails. NONE.

So, let's say you contacted a girl on WED and invited her out for a drink or two, but she didn't respond.

I would wait until the next WED (i.e 7 days) to again invite her out for a drink or two--and no pleasantries or conversational fluff whatsoever this time. Straight to the point: No "hi" or "how ya doin'?" or anything...just an invite out: "Hey you! Do you have plans Friday night?"

If she doesn't respond to that, then I would keep her number in my phone but relegate her to the "bulk text" list that I like to send out once a month...it's always interesting when a chick who flaked on you months ago responds to your bulk text.
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Care to enlighten us on this bulk text business?
 
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I personally wouldn't even think about a bulk list for the flakers...Why would I waste my time texting women who blew me off?

Fair enough if you've gone back out with some of them and it depends what you want, but if they don't put any effort in to meeting up after a couple invites, then they get deleted.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Espi said:
I used to delete numbers until I heard about group texting (which I didn't even know I could do on my Blackberry until I Googled it). It doesn't take but a minute to load up a bulk text and send out a really brief message. And I like anticipating who's gonna reply or if I'm gonna catch a chick who's horny/drunk/in the mood, etc. I've really enjoyed the few times that I re-dated women whom I completely forgot what they looked like, etc.--kind of like going on a blind date, in a recycled, environmentally friendly kind of way.

And, if a woman replies whom I suspect stood me up months or years ago, I will "invite" her to a fancy restaurant and never even bother showing up. Revenge in this case is a dish best served up hot or cold!
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lol I like your style.
 
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