"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How do you get a meetup out of a number?

SamTheHobit

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Getting numbers, girls seem interested.. Then nothing. How do you overcome this barrier?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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the_stig

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Espi said:
There are varying opinions on this, but mine is, spin as many plates as you can handle and keep the phone-text-email convos MINIMAL...ie. no longer than 5 minutes on the phone or no more than 2-3 text/email volleys...and if they don't respond, go cold on them for one week. NO texts-calls-emails. NONE.

So, let's say you contacted a girl on WED and invited her out for a drink or two, but she didn't respond.

I would wait until the next WED (i.e 7 days) to again invite her out for a drink or two--and no pleasantries or conversational fluff whatsoever this time. Straight to the point: No "hi" or "how ya doin'?" or anything...just an invite out: "Hey you! Do you have plans Friday night?"

If she doesn't respond to that, then I would keep her number in my phone but relegate her to the "bulk text" list that I like to send out once a month...it's always interesting when a chick who flaked on you months ago responds to your bulk text.
Care to enlighten us on this bulk text business?
 

1ncredible

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I personally wouldn't even think about a bulk list for the flakers...Why would I waste my time texting women who blew me off?

Fair enough if you've gone back out with some of them and it depends what you want, but if they don't put any effort in to meeting up after a couple invites, then they get deleted.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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SamTheHobit

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Espi said:
I used to delete numbers until I heard about group texting (which I didn't even know I could do on my Blackberry until I Googled it). It doesn't take but a minute to load up a bulk text and send out a really brief message. And I like anticipating who's gonna reply or if I'm gonna catch a chick who's horny/drunk/in the mood, etc. I've really enjoyed the few times that I re-dated women whom I completely forgot what they looked like, etc.--kind of like going on a blind date, in a recycled, environmentally friendly kind of way.

And, if a woman replies whom I suspect stood me up months or years ago, I will "invite" her to a fancy restaurant and never even bother showing up. Revenge in this case is a dish best served up hot or cold!
lol I like your style.
 
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