How do you get a meetup out of a number?

[SamTheHobit]

Getting numbers, girls seem interested.. Then nothing. How do you overcome this barrier?

 

[the_stig]

There are varying opinions on this, but mine is, spin as many plates as you can handle and keep the phone-text-email convos MINIMAL...ie. no longer than 5 minutes on the phone or no more than 2-3 text/email volleys...and if they don't respond, go cold on them for one week. NO texts-calls-emails. NONE.

So, let's say you contacted a girl on WED and invited her out for a drink or two, but she didn't respond.

I would wait until the next WED (i.e 7 days) to again invite her out for a drink or two--and no pleasantries or conversational fluff whatsoever this time. Straight to the point: No "hi" or "how ya doin'?" or anything...just an invite out: "Hey you! Do you have plans Friday night?"

If she doesn't respond to that, then I would keep her number in my phone but relegate her to the "bulk text" list that I like to send out once a month...it's always interesting when a chick who flaked on you months ago responds to your bulk text.

Care to enlighten us on this bulk text business?

 

[European-DJ]

Getting numbers, girls seem interested.. Then nothing. How do you overcome this barrier?

You simply ask!

 

[Serg897]

I like this bulk text idea. I think I'll implement that!

 

[1ncredible]

I personally wouldn't even think about a bulk list for the flakers...Why would I waste my time texting women who blew me off?

Fair enough if you've gone back out with some of them and it depends what you want, but if they don't put any effort in to meeting up after a couple invites, then they get deleted.

 

[SamTheHobit]

I used to delete numbers until I heard about group texting (which I didn't even know I could do on my Blackberry until I Googled it). It doesn't take but a minute to load up a bulk text and send out a really brief message. And I like anticipating who's gonna reply or if I'm gonna catch a chick who's horny/drunk/in the mood, etc. I've really enjoyed the few times that I re-dated women whom I completely forgot what they looked like, etc.--kind of like going on a blind date, in a recycled, environmentally friendly kind of way.

And, if a woman replies whom I suspect stood me up months or years ago, I will "invite" her to a fancy restaurant and never even bother showing up. Revenge in this case is a dish best served up hot or cold!

lol I like your style.