"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
How do you get a girlfriend
- Thread starter JPlaya
- Start date
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Ihateinitiatingalot7
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and how do you stop being desperate? easier said than doneMM92 said:How to get a girlfriend is ironically to not look for one, kill the desperation.
good post. in afc world, the default relationship is when a girl basically goes out and grabs herself a boyfriend.pipe007 said:yep, your next gf will most likely be with a girl that chooses you,
I'd be willing to bet 9 out 10 "relationships" fit into this category.
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One basis point is to get comfortable in talking with women. Make smalltalk and chat with women you see, at work, in the checkout at a store, etc. I often make banter with women at work, or even the security guards in shops. One reason is just to be friendly, the other is that it's practice. It lends to experience in talking with women and people in general.
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1) You keep doing what you were doing that got you the first few dates.
2) You NEVER inquire about the status of your relationship with her. It is whatever it is.
3) When you have sex for the first time with her you do NOT assume it means she is now your girlfriend.
4) She will either inquire about being your girlfriend or her actions will show that she clearly has high interest in you, in which case you do not need to ask any questions about your relationship - just go with the flow.
This stuff is not as easy as it sounds when your goal is for a particular girl to be your girlfriend, which is why people will say spin plates so you don't let your emotions take over.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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it kind of fits into place. once there is mutual attraction and warmth, simply tell her "it seems we're exclusive now, don't you think?" It needs to be subtle, not overt.
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well not literally, since a girl will not approach a guyst_99 said:good post. in afc world, the default relationship is when a girl basically goes out and grabs herself a boyfriend.
I'd be willing to bet 9 out 10 "relationships" fit into this category.