"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
How do you get a girlfriend
- Thread starter JPlaya
- Start date
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Ihateinitiatingalot7
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and how do you stop being desperate? easier said than doneMM92 said:How to get a girlfriend is ironically to not look for one, kill the desperation.
good post. in afc world, the default relationship is when a girl basically goes out and grabs herself a boyfriend.pipe007 said:yep, your next gf will most likely be with a girl that chooses you,
I'd be willing to bet 9 out 10 "relationships" fit into this category.
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One basis point is to get comfortable in talking with women. Make smalltalk and chat with women you see, at work, in the checkout at a store, etc. I often make banter with women at work, or even the security guards in shops. One reason is just to be friendly, the other is that it's practice. It lends to experience in talking with women and people in general.
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1) You keep doing what you were doing that got you the first few dates.
2) You NEVER inquire about the status of your relationship with her. It is whatever it is.
3) When you have sex for the first time with her you do NOT assume it means she is now your girlfriend.
4) She will either inquire about being your girlfriend or her actions will show that she clearly has high interest in you, in which case you do not need to ask any questions about your relationship - just go with the flow.
This stuff is not as easy as it sounds when your goal is for a particular girl to be your girlfriend, which is why people will say spin plates so you don't let your emotions take over.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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it kind of fits into place. once there is mutual attraction and warmth, simply tell her "it seems we're exclusive now, don't you think?" It needs to be subtle, not overt.
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well not literally, since a girl will not approach a guyst_99 said:good post. in afc world, the default relationship is when a girl basically goes out and grabs herself a boyfriend.
I'd be willing to bet 9 out 10 "relationships" fit into this category.