"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
How do you get a girlfriend
- Thread starter JPlaya
- Start date
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Ihateinitiatingalot7
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and how do you stop being desperate? easier said than doneMM92 said:How to get a girlfriend is ironically to not look for one, kill the desperation.
good post. in afc world, the default relationship is when a girl basically goes out and grabs herself a boyfriend.pipe007 said:yep, your next gf will most likely be with a girl that chooses you,
I'd be willing to bet 9 out 10 "relationships" fit into this category.
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One basis point is to get comfortable in talking with women. Make smalltalk and chat with women you see, at work, in the checkout at a store, etc. I often make banter with women at work, or even the security guards in shops. One reason is just to be friendly, the other is that it's practice. It lends to experience in talking with women and people in general.
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1) You keep doing what you were doing that got you the first few dates.
2) You NEVER inquire about the status of your relationship with her. It is whatever it is.
3) When you have sex for the first time with her you do NOT assume it means she is now your girlfriend.
4) She will either inquire about being your girlfriend or her actions will show that she clearly has high interest in you, in which case you do not need to ask any questions about your relationship - just go with the flow.
This stuff is not as easy as it sounds when your goal is for a particular girl to be your girlfriend, which is why people will say spin plates so you don't let your emotions take over.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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it kind of fits into place. once there is mutual attraction and warmth, simply tell her "it seems we're exclusive now, don't you think?" It needs to be subtle, not overt.
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Ihateinitiatingalot7
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well not literally, since a girl will not approach a guyst_99 said:good post. in afc world, the default relationship is when a girl basically goes out and grabs herself a boyfriend.
I'd be willing to bet 9 out 10 "relationships" fit into this category.