"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
How do you get a girlfriend
- Thread starter JPlaya
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Young Stallion
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Dress well, be outgoing, fun and dont give a crap about rejection. That is part of the lesson.
I have found that tools like David D'Angelos double your dating, The Book Of Pook, the DJ Bible are very good when you are studying about theory and they are really fundamental in learning the process at the beginning.
Be wary though, these are guide books, but to get good you have to practice...and for a while you are going to be bad, really bad and come off creepy when you are using the stuff I mentioned above. But dont worry, with more practice it will smoothe out and you will find that confidence, outgoingness and learning how to create attraction through neg hits and teasing and being a fun suave guy really gets alot of ladies.
I am a PRIME example of this stuff taking a guy from being worse than bad in high school...girls wouldnt even talk to me and were disgusted by my presence....to being 29 years old and being able to pick up a girl anywhere besides maybe a club or bar lol.... or at least have a fun interaction.
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You need to pick up a girl and spark attraction with her in the first place in order for her to become your girlfriend.JPlaya said:
You know what, you should KEEP doing the stuff you did to pick her up and attract her in order to keep her interested and creating and maintaining a relationship as well!
Girls love challenge, spontaniety, being teased, being made fun of, being bad and having a guy that knows how to make her feel good....err bad...err good.
Be wary with your "how do I get a girlfriend" mentality though because the guys who TRY to get a relationship are the ones that end up hurt. Or end up becoming to nice in the relationship and the girl leaves, cheats, whatever...youve gotta keep it fresh and keen.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Gray The Prince
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so for you... its a about getting lucky lol
yep, your next gf will most likely be with a girl that chooses you, so you wont really have to do much work as far as game or trying to attract her, or choosing her.
she will be the one to give you many indicators of interest...
why?
because you are asking.
so don't worry and just wait for the next girl who will pick you... you may wait for a while so in the mean time, relax.
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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We don't hate you. You do that to yourself enough for all of us.JPlaya said:
Seriously, listen to yourself. "I have no game."
Then fix it. I know people with Asperger's and autism who are able to put in the effort. They have setbacks and obstacles, and they may never get to the point of being super popular, but they at least become happy with themselves.
If you spent less time creating whiny threads and more time becoming an interesting person, you wouldn't have to ask these questions.
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cablecow15
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JPlaya said:
this guy pmed me this , just because i live in a redneck town lol , it'd be wise not to take anything he says seriously
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Then the airheads don't bother you, and quite often, you get a lot of them who are married or have guys, but you can still score. There's something about these subjects, with a lot of women. It's like being the lead singer in a rock band, or something. They dig it.To the first poster.loveshogun said:
I have aspergers, too, and I got things wrong with me on the outside too.
Don't actually recall when I was disgnosed, must have been very young. I will tell you its very difficult, and i did fall into the realm of creepy or weird or obsessive, or even thinking I was a 'special needs' case. It would help of course if some people, including young people, weren't such morons.
it is easy to fall into the trap of making 'woe is me' threads because of rigid thinking- its way harder on you trying to make sense of life and other people, never mind women and dating. Its not your fault you have AS, its just life.
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Really?? 29 decades of age?? Can I find you in the guinness world records?ananursing said:
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.