"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
How do you get a girlfriend
- Thread starter JPlaya
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Young Stallion
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Dress well, be outgoing, fun and dont give a crap about rejection. That is part of the lesson.
I have found that tools like David D'Angelos double your dating, The Book Of Pook, the DJ Bible are very good when you are studying about theory and they are really fundamental in learning the process at the beginning.
Be wary though, these are guide books, but to get good you have to practice...and for a while you are going to be bad, really bad and come off creepy when you are using the stuff I mentioned above. But dont worry, with more practice it will smoothe out and you will find that confidence, outgoingness and learning how to create attraction through neg hits and teasing and being a fun suave guy really gets alot of ladies.
I am a PRIME example of this stuff taking a guy from being worse than bad in high school...girls wouldnt even talk to me and were disgusted by my presence....to being 29 years old and being able to pick up a girl anywhere besides maybe a club or bar lol.... or at least have a fun interaction.
Young Stallion
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You need to pick up a girl and spark attraction with her in the first place in order for her to become your girlfriend.JPlaya said:
You know what, you should KEEP doing the stuff you did to pick her up and attract her in order to keep her interested and creating and maintaining a relationship as well!
Girls love challenge, spontaniety, being teased, being made fun of, being bad and having a guy that knows how to make her feel good....err bad...err good.
Be wary with your "how do I get a girlfriend" mentality though because the guys who TRY to get a relationship are the ones that end up hurt. Or end up becoming to nice in the relationship and the girl leaves, cheats, whatever...youve gotta keep it fresh and keen.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Gray The Prince
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so for you... its a about getting lucky lol
yep, your next gf will most likely be with a girl that chooses you, so you wont really have to do much work as far as game or trying to attract her, or choosing her.
she will be the one to give you many indicators of interest...
why?
because you are asking.
so don't worry and just wait for the next girl who will pick you... you may wait for a while so in the mean time, relax.
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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We don't hate you. You do that to yourself enough for all of us.JPlaya said:
Seriously, listen to yourself. "I have no game."
Then fix it. I know people with Asperger's and autism who are able to put in the effort. They have setbacks and obstacles, and they may never get to the point of being super popular, but they at least become happy with themselves.
If you spent less time creating whiny threads and more time becoming an interesting person, you wouldn't have to ask these questions.
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cablecow15
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JPlaya said:
this guy pmed me this , just because i live in a redneck town lol , it'd be wise not to take anything he says seriously
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Then the airheads don't bother you, and quite often, you get a lot of them who are married or have guys, but you can still score. There's something about these subjects, with a lot of women. It's like being the lead singer in a rock band, or something. They dig it.To the first poster.loveshogun said:
I have aspergers, too, and I got things wrong with me on the outside too.
Don't actually recall when I was disgnosed, must have been very young. I will tell you its very difficult, and i did fall into the realm of creepy or weird or obsessive, or even thinking I was a 'special needs' case. It would help of course if some people, including young people, weren't such morons.
it is easy to fall into the trap of making 'woe is me' threads because of rigid thinking- its way harder on you trying to make sense of life and other people, never mind women and dating. Its not your fault you have AS, its just life.
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Really?? 29 decades of age?? Can I find you in the guinness world records?ananursing said:
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.