King Of Nowhere
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We havnt been on a date or hung out yet. So,Do I just ask her to come over and hang out? What do you guys do?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
How do you get a girl to come over?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Ya, it's that easy man. If the girl likes you(based off of looks/ what contact you've had so far) she will come over. It really is that easy.
Also, if she's not busy. But even if she is legitimately busy she will make a counter offer for a night tha'ts better for her if she really likes you / wants to chill w/ you.
Also, if she's not busy. But even if she is legitimately busy she will make a counter offer for a night tha'ts better for her if she really likes you / wants to chill w/ you.
King Of Nowhere
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Ok, I just found out that my mom dosent have to work tomorrow and will be home all day 
. Now my question is "how do I get invited to her house?"
. Now my question is "how do I get invited to her house?"BlueberryMuffins
Don Juan
just ask her if you can come over. if she likes you, she'll say yes.
thevilittletroll
Senior Don Juan
if you ask her over to your house for a first date, she's just gonna flake on you. you havent built up enough comfort with her yet. she knows why you want her to come over, she's not stupid. i'd suggest anything in public. build up more attraction and comfort, then see if she'd like to come over to your place.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
DonGorgon
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You - "hey we should chill, kikit or spend some time together sometime soon.. we can smoke an drink and or watch movies and hangout .. "King Of Nowhere said:
^^ that works for me