Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I agree. It would make laying them easier but I wouldn't feel right leading them on. Hell, a guy could say that he wanted to marry them just to get some. I guess it all depends on how desperate a guy may be to get laid.Rex Man said:It's all good. Just don't say you're getting into a relationship with 'em.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
3rd that... agreed.Francisco d'Anconia said:I agree. It would make laying them easier but I wouldn't feel right leading them on.
Just dont f@ck anyone you wouldnt date for a whileZero Hero said:What are your guys thoughts about ****ing women who think that you want a relationship with them even though you just want to **** them? Is this a no-no?
Nothin wrong with it cause thats what I do. I'm always honest with my intentions, just for the sake of respect. Respect is everything and even love cant exist without it. So they love me anyway. Most dont like it though but thats their problem. I wouldn't say I'm a player though. More like a negotiater of the sort.Zero Hero said:What are your guys thoughts about ****ing women who think that you want a relationship with them even though you just want to **** them? Is this a no-no?
I know thats right.:rockon:DarkLight said:3rd that... agreed.
Plus... no need to create future possibilities of chaos for your life.
Being a man of truth is power.
They'll be that much more attracted to you, if your solid.
Ya, a few might pass... but that happens for other reasons, just as naturally. Might as well walk your walk, and let it bring its rewards, minus the BS.
In the long haul, it will only serve to internalize much of the DJ perspective, thus strengthen you as a man. This can only attract more women.
Peace'
Very true, but if I'm going to put a down payment on a car I'm definitely going to drive her around the block a couple of times to make sure she rides well.SharinganUser said:I don't bang anyone that I wouldn't consider being in a LTR with. I think that would make any "accidents" easier to handle.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Very true. An added benefit is understanding that you don't need to bed every woman to validate yourself. It feels good being able to walk away without feeling that you've lost out on something. It actually makes you feel like you've gained something new.DarkLight said:...Being a man of truth is power.
They'll be that much more attracted to you, if your solid.
Ya, a few might pass... but that happens for other reasons, just as naturally. Might as well walk your walk, and let it bring its rewards, minus the BS.
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PRMoon said:Okay.
Well I'm doing that now so I guess my awnser is yes. I'm "seeing" a girl right now who's attactive an all but I'm really just in it for the sex i suppose. I don't see our relationship going anywhere cause I'm just not that into her. She buys me dinner all the time too so I guess that's a bonus. Ultimately though I'm gonna stop calling her sooner or later.
I guess that's part of being a player. I have enough options where I could give a crap if how attracted she is to me or how much she wants me. I'm in it for the sex and when it's over (I dump her, she catches me out with someone else, is she dumps me etc etc) I won't feel too bad. As a player I know there are thousands of other girls around (hell there are at least a few hundred at my job) that I'd be interested in more then just for the sex, so who cares about this one?
Well said... and oh so true.Francisco d'Anconia said:Very true. An added benefit is understanding that you don't need to bed every woman to validate yourself. It feels good being able to walk away without feeling that you've lost out on something. It actually makes you feel like you've gained something new.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.