Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I agree. It would make laying them easier but I wouldn't feel right leading them on. Hell, a guy could say that he wanted to marry them just to get some. I guess it all depends on how desperate a guy may be to get laid.Rex Man said:It's all good. Just don't say you're getting into a relationship with 'em.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
3rd that... agreed.Francisco d'Anconia said:I agree. It would make laying them easier but I wouldn't feel right leading them on.
Just dont f@ck anyone you wouldnt date for a whileZero Hero said:What are your guys thoughts about ****ing women who think that you want a relationship with them even though you just want to **** them? Is this a no-no?
Nothin wrong with it cause thats what I do. I'm always honest with my intentions, just for the sake of respect. Respect is everything and even love cant exist without it. So they love me anyway. Most dont like it though but thats their problem. I wouldn't say I'm a player though. More like a negotiater of the sort.Zero Hero said:What are your guys thoughts about ****ing women who think that you want a relationship with them even though you just want to **** them? Is this a no-no?
I know thats right.:rockon:DarkLight said:3rd that... agreed.
Plus... no need to create future possibilities of chaos for your life.
Being a man of truth is power.
They'll be that much more attracted to you, if your solid.
Ya, a few might pass... but that happens for other reasons, just as naturally. Might as well walk your walk, and let it bring its rewards, minus the BS.
In the long haul, it will only serve to internalize much of the DJ perspective, thus strengthen you as a man. This can only attract more women.
Peace'
Very true, but if I'm going to put a down payment on a car I'm definitely going to drive her around the block a couple of times to make sure she rides well.SharinganUser said:I don't bang anyone that I wouldn't consider being in a LTR with. I think that would make any "accidents" easier to handle.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Very true. An added benefit is understanding that you don't need to bed every woman to validate yourself. It feels good being able to walk away without feeling that you've lost out on something. It actually makes you feel like you've gained something new.DarkLight said:...Being a man of truth is power.
They'll be that much more attracted to you, if your solid.
Ya, a few might pass... but that happens for other reasons, just as naturally. Might as well walk your walk, and let it bring its rewards, minus the BS.
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PRMoon said:Okay.
Well I'm doing that now so I guess my awnser is yes. I'm "seeing" a girl right now who's attactive an all but I'm really just in it for the sex i suppose. I don't see our relationship going anywhere cause I'm just not that into her. She buys me dinner all the time too so I guess that's a bonus. Ultimately though I'm gonna stop calling her sooner or later.
I guess that's part of being a player. I have enough options where I could give a crap if how attracted she is to me or how much she wants me. I'm in it for the sex and when it's over (I dump her, she catches me out with someone else, is she dumps me etc etc) I won't feel too bad. As a player I know there are thousands of other girls around (hell there are at least a few hundred at my job) that I'd be interested in more then just for the sex, so who cares about this one?
Well said... and oh so true.Francisco d'Anconia said:Very true. An added benefit is understanding that you don't need to bed every woman to validate yourself. It feels good being able to walk away without feeling that you've lost out on something. It actually makes you feel like you've gained something new.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.