"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How do you feel about being a PLAYER?

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What are your guys thoughts about ****ing women who think that you want a relationship with them even though you just want to **** them? Is this a no-no?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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It's all good. Just don't say you're getting into a relationship with 'em.
 

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I usually try to avoid this if the couple is local and the guys like a construction worker or something. That has 2x4 through the expencive tinted glass written all over it and I don't need that drama. If their relationship is weak and the guy isn't huge then I'll hook it up. If she's from out of town...well there's really no way of me knowing whether or not she's single or taken unless she tells me. For instance I slept with a girl who was getting married less then a month after her trip here. I didn't find this out until my friend (who hooked up with her already married friend) sent him pictures of her wedding. In that case I gotta plead ignorance. Sometimes I'll hook up with an out of town married or with boyfriend girl, other times I go the other direction and say no thanks. Usually that decision depends on how many Greyhounds I've had over the course of the day leading up to our encounter.
 

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PRMoon, I'm not talking about taken girls. I'm talking about girls you are "dating" just for the sex, but they think it's moving towards being an LTR.
 

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Once i was getting with this girl and when she moved i told her to fvck off and never talk to me again...she was crazy so it was ok.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Okay.

Well I'm doing that now so I guess my awnser is yes. I'm "seeing" a girl right now who's attactive an all but I'm really just in it for the sex i suppose. I don't see our relationship going anywhere cause I'm just not that into her. She buys me dinner all the time too so I guess that's a bonus. Ultimately though I'm gonna stop calling her sooner or later.

I guess that's part of being a player. I have enough options where I could give a crap if how attracted she is to me or how much she wants me. I'm in it for the sex and when it's over (I dump her, she catches me out with someone else, is she dumps me etc etc) I won't feel too bad. As a player I know there are thousands of other girls around (hell there are at least a few hundred at my job) that I'd be interested in more then just for the sex, so who cares about this one?
 

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Just bang them dude. Your the prize your screwing them right. They are getting something out if it. Your time and your giving them sex. Who cares what she thinks just don't make them your girlfriend
 

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Rex Man said:
It's all good. Just don't say you're getting into a relationship with 'em.
I agree. It would make laying them easier but I wouldn't feel right leading them on. Hell, a guy could say that he wanted to marry them just to get some. I guess it all depends on how desperate a guy may be to get laid.
 

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I don't bang anyone that I wouldn't consider being in a LTR with. I think that would make any "accidents" easier to handle.
 

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How do you feel about getting your heart ripped out and stepped on? How do you feel about getting rejected and stuffed in the friend zone?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
I agree. It would make laying them easier but I wouldn't feel right leading them on.
3rd that... agreed.
Plus... no need to create future possibilities of chaos for your life.

Being a man of truth is power.
They'll be that much more attracted to you, if your solid.
Ya, a few might pass... but that happens for other reasons, just as naturally. Might as well walk your walk, and let it bring its rewards, minus the BS.

In the long haul, it will only serve to internalize much of the DJ perspective, thus strengthen you as a man. This can only attract more women.

Peace'
 

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Zero Hero said:
What are your guys thoughts about ****ing women who think that you want a relationship with them even though you just want to **** them? Is this a no-no?
Just dont f@ck anyone you wouldnt date for a while ;)

But Im not a player. I just want to pull quality chic and be with her. Playing is when you talk/act like you are interested but you are not and vice versa. It is not moral, honest and healthy anyway. Look at Attention Wh0res...onces you know them you despise them. Pulling chics for ego inflation is not what quality Man do.
 

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Zero Hero said:
What are your guys thoughts about ****ing women who think that you want a relationship with them even though you just want to **** them? Is this a no-no?
Nothin wrong with it cause thats what I do. I'm always honest with my intentions, just for the sake of respect. Respect is everything and even love cant exist without it. So they love me anyway. Most dont like it though but thats their problem. I wouldn't say I'm a player though. More like a negotiater of the sort.
 

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DarkLight said:
3rd that... agreed.
Plus... no need to create future possibilities of chaos for your life.

Being a man of truth is power.
They'll be that much more attracted to you, if your solid.
Ya, a few might pass... but that happens for other reasons, just as naturally. Might as well walk your walk, and let it bring its rewards, minus the BS.

In the long haul, it will only serve to internalize much of the DJ perspective, thus strengthen you as a man. This can only attract more women.

Peace'
I know thats right.:rockon:
 

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SharinganUser said:
I don't bang anyone that I wouldn't consider being in a LTR with. I think that would make any "accidents" easier to handle.
Very true, but if I'm going to put a down payment on a car I'm definitely going to drive her around the block a couple of times to make sure she rides well. :up:
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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DarkLight said:
...Being a man of truth is power.
They'll be that much more attracted to you, if your solid.
Ya, a few might pass... but that happens for other reasons, just as naturally. Might as well walk your walk, and let it bring its rewards, minus the BS.
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Very true. An added benefit is understanding that you don't need to bed every woman to validate yourself. It feels good being able to walk away without feeling that you've lost out on something. It actually makes you feel like you've gained something new.
 

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PRMoon said:
Okay.

Well I'm doing that now so I guess my awnser is yes. I'm "seeing" a girl right now who's attactive an all but I'm really just in it for the sex i suppose. I don't see our relationship going anywhere cause I'm just not that into her. She buys me dinner all the time too so I guess that's a bonus. Ultimately though I'm gonna stop calling her sooner or later.

I guess that's part of being a player. I have enough options where I could give a crap if how attracted she is to me or how much she wants me. I'm in it for the sex and when it's over (I dump her, she catches me out with someone else, is she dumps me etc etc) I won't feel too bad. As a player I know there are thousands of other girls around (hell there are at least a few hundred at my job) that I'd be interested in more then just for the sex, so who cares about this one?

What is your job?
 

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I have two jobs. I work at the largest hotel casino in the world and i work as a club promoter for a night life company.

The first one obviously employees a few thousand people of which about half are girls and there's a pretty big turn over in the industry. I've dated several girls there with little back lash because it's very unlikely that they'll ever meet. Really though the second job is what fuels me to be a player. Since I'm pretty much required to go out and talk to hot girls as a club promoter, I interact on a very social level with these girls reguarly. They'll ask if i'm going to meet them at the club, give me their numbers, sometimes take pictures with me and so on. You can only take so much of that before you get into the player state.

Really being a real player in the game is very tiring though. I'm seeing three girls right now pretty much regularly but it gets more hectic the more things drag out. They all start wanting more and more of my time and there are only so many hours in the day that you can divy out for social callings. It's like juggling and the objects you are putting into the air just keep getting bigger and bigger before your eyes. Eventually choices have to be made and sometimes people get hurt. That's the nature of the game.
 

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Banged a girl friday night (and one satuday too :D).
Anyway took her out clubbing, at the end of the night:

I said.
"lets go back to mine i have a few beers in and i am enjoying your company".
She says
" i know where this leads" Giving a look of 'please let this not be just one night thing'
I replied
"Thanks for the roundabout way of showing you want to see me again, but this is just a drink and a chat, i will get you a cab home when ever you want, come on its only 3am".
She said.
"you will never see me again if i go, i have been here before"

Anyway i drummed home the same subject.

Got her back to my place, fu** her all over my bedroom, phoned her a cab the next morning (made her some breakfast e.t.c) and i dont regret it for one bit.


Now if this post is about making guys feel bad for using women like that, well i totally enjoyed it and you know what, so did she in the end!

Women are adults too! sometimes they need a little coaxing.

but i am sure some pu**y whipped man ***** will see my post as using the women.
Hey so what?

Do i really give a shi* in the end?

This is not a reply to the player thing, it is a reply to the OP intention (or the idea of it) of making guys feel bad for wanting sex and making sure they get it (always allow them to say no and be willing to be a gent even when they blow you in, works wonders for next time)! Just like women do in a different way!

Maybe this is not very DJ, but then again only this site makes one out to be a DJ, others make out to be a player a pimp or some other rubbish, i say sod all that and just do what ever the hell makes you happy.

If that means baggin a few girls who put out in a round about way, go for it.
Just know what you are doing, as for safe, well there are many ways to be safe, e.t.c.

Having a DJ badge is not worth of note imo, but thats just me!

I dont post to become a DJ, i have no intention i post simply due to seeing something worth of note and commenting on it.
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Very true. An added benefit is understanding that you don't need to bed every woman to validate yourself. It feels good being able to walk away without feeling that you've lost out on something. It actually makes you feel like you've gained something new.
Well said... and oh so true.

JonWon-

Do as you will man.
But my path isn't about pvssy... its about spirit.
And in particular... MY spirit.

I'm here to realize the height of my potential being a MAN.
And the more integrity I hold, the more power I command.
The rewards of my experience agree w. me as well.
Whether it be pvssy, money, a smile, or just being able to relax into myself and enjoy what I've created.

Hope your choices bring you the same.
Peace'
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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